KG Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 This week alone we've had some rude comments made, by him. Totally not him at all. And I just got an e-mail from one of his teachers that he was acting disrespectful towards another student, and towards that teacher. I intend to sit down and discuss this, but I think it may, may, have something to do with the 3rd anniversary of him losing his Mom. But he will deny it to the end. He has been praised by others for his polite, gentle nature, and now this? Ideas welcome, TIA, KG Link to comment
doityourself Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 You seem to know what you need to do, make sure its nothing like being bullied at school or anything of that nature. Is he in counseling, if he cant open up to you maybe a middle man would do some good. Does he have a woman figure around? Link to comment
preciousgirl82 Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 I have a feeling it does have to do with the loss of his mom. Thats not something that is easy to get over and your son probably doesnt know how to express his emotions. Heck, we as adults still struggle with it sometimes. You need to sit down and speak to him if you dont feel counseling is an option at this time. Force him to talk about his feelings because, if he doesnt, keeping it bottled in will only lead to emotional distress, misconduct and extreme depression later on. If this is unusual behavior for him then u can bet there's something going on thats troubling him. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 I would bet that it does have to do with his mom KG. My son acts up when it comes to the time of year his brother died. I have encouraged him to tell his teacher WHY he is upset. He does. He basically says " I am depressed this time of year because my brother died." and then they understand why he is stubborn and moody. Link to comment
KG Posted February 5, 2010 Author Share Posted February 5, 2010 Just got an e-mail from another teacher...work not done, talking back to the teacher. Counselling being arranged. Link to comment
unknownme Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 Something is deffinatelly up.. Yes counseling is great, Maybe he will open up with a counselor, Make sure you get feed back.. being supportive is what children need Link to comment
FarthestEdge Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 ah how old is he? early teens, right? I hate to say this, but it could be nothing more than classic teenage crapattituditis.... He might just be trying on a new personae for size. Asserting himself, being a bigshot in front of his friends, or rejecting sympathy or gentle treatment. Is it possible he's feeling like the 'kid who's mom died" and wants to break away from that label? ... He might also be trying to impress a hot chick who likes the bad boys, or new friends...anything going on there? I don't know. Of course you want to look into the missing mom angle (I mean NO disrespect, nor do I mean to minimize this in ANY WAY), but it could also just be part of the normal teenage condition...which if it is, then you can pat yourself on the back, you've raised a perfectly normal teenage boy...attitude and all! Link to comment
KG Posted February 5, 2010 Author Share Posted February 5, 2010 I'm going to sit down at dinner tonight and have a discussion with him about this. I can't get to the bottom of it alone. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 It could be this too, I had quite the "tude" as a teenager. Link to comment
doityourself Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 KG- wow teens huh, the only experience I have with teens is with girls and they are always drama queens? Hope your talk went good. Link to comment
KG Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 I assigned a point system based on bad grades/behaviour. Losing big priveleges if he gets out of control. He brought home 2 A's and a B this week...... Link to comment
doityourself Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 How does your point system work, Im always looking for new ideas on how to punish my sons. Does it also have rewards on good behavior? The only thing I can do that they care about it take the xbox away, which I had to do last night (I took it for a month, kinda regretting the time limit I set) over arguing. My sons are 10 and 5. Link to comment
KG Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 How does your point system work, Im always looking for new ideas on how to punish my sons. Does it also have rewards on good behavior? The only thing I can do that they care about it take the xbox away, which I had to do last night (I took it for a month, kinda regretting the time limit I set) over arguing. My sons are 10 and 5. 1 assignment late, or bad grade, no computer for weekend. 2 late.....no 'puter or tv. 3.....all of the above and no xBox. 4....all the above, and no school dances that month.:sad: Link to comment
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