What should I do???

[fafaflohi]

Everyday I come home from work and my wife of 4 yrs (together 10yrs) is always so negative to my kids and I. She is always yelling at them for minor things and never talking to me. I want to just end it but am afraid that she would get the kids and then I wont be able to be around to protect them from all the verbal punishment.She always complains if I would like to have a me day!!! I think because she has no friends she believes that I shouldnt have any either. I have taken it long enough and dont know what to do????

I called her out on all of this the other night and got into a big argument but the next day she was perfect with the kids.. then she came home today and it was back to normal

 

I have taken just about all I can

 

WHAT SHOULD I DO?????

[pumpkinmoon]

If you have tried talking and you think you need to leave, go and see someone about where you stand legally where the children are concerned.

[Daligal83]

I think family therapy would be beneficial in this situation. Do you think she'd be open to that?

[V01D]

No offense, but you sound like a loser and I'd like to know what you consider to be "minor things" and "verbal punishment". And why would she never talk to you? I'm sure it's no fault of yours right?

[catfeeder]

Hire a sitter and take wife out somewhere she'll enjoy. Ask her to start confiding in you and don't try to solve her problems for her. Ask instead what she WANTS to do differently and listen to her.

 

If you position yourself as her adversary instead of her partner, you'll land yourself an adversary instead of a partner. Try to think of yourself as being on her team, and treat her with the kind of respect you'd treat a teammate who was failing.

 

Your wife is failing and she needs a lifeline, not a critic.

[norsewoman]

Marriage counseling. You made a commitment and you should not take it lightly. Please try to salvage your marriage before you tear it up and make things difficult for your children.

[fafaflohi]

thank you for all of the great ideas I will definetly try them out!!!

 

and I sound like a loser because really I am, who isnt??

[NowandZen]

I think you express your dissatisfaction in a respectful way. Marriage counseling could help with this. The important thing is to not be accusing or judgmental.