jackie100 Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 I have always paid for everything 100 percent but that's because I'm the type of woman who likes to pay for herself. Even supported my ex financially, paid his bills, meals, let him live with me rent free. At the time, I was also making 10x the amount he was making. My income is high enough where I don't have to worry about small things like splitting the birth control bill in half. It's not even worth talking about. I can take care of myself. I am very independent. If you make a good income, things like paying for condoms/birth control shouldn't be an issue. When I was with my ex I would pay for all the condoms too. I actually like paying. I am not destitute financially where I need a man to pitch in or split half for things that are so affordable that it should not even be an issue. If we're talking about the price of a house that is 500k and we are living together and yes, we should split. But for small things that are $30, $50 or even $100 etc, it's not an issue for me. I don't have to watch every penny... Link to comment
mandyc Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 my insurance covers most of it, i think i only pay $15 so it's not a huge issue for me. But i really haven't ever thought about it that way. I guess I was on it before him and use it for other things, like keeping my period regular, so it isn't just for birth control. This is interesting though, I haven't ever thought about it, but it makes sense that a couple should go in on it together. Link to comment
mandyc Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 I think it is more of a gesture, like saying we are in this together, then it is about money. Link to comment
hers Posted February 5, 2010 Author Share Posted February 5, 2010 Yes mandy, the gesture to me just says so much about my boyfriend. I'm not nickel and diming him with it. It just amazed me that he even offered, as I never had any other guy offer before. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 Yes mandy, the gesture to me just says so much about my boyfriend. I'm not nickel and diming him with it. It just amazed me that he even offered, as I never had any other guy offer before. It's really nice that he offered. And I completely agree that it has nothing to do with money. It doesn't put me back that far for birth control. But the fact that he doesn't see this as 'your issue' or 'your job' is really quite nice and endearing. It's such a small gestures yet it means a lot. Responsibility for both of us! Link to comment
hers Posted February 5, 2010 Author Share Posted February 5, 2010 He's just so amazing and I'm so happy to have him. I can't get over it. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 He's just so amazing and I'm so happy to have him. I can't get over it. That's so cute. I'm so happy for you. Link to comment
hers Posted February 5, 2010 Author Share Posted February 5, 2010 Thanks, not to get off topic of anything Link to comment
rikka Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 When I was getting the IUD he offered to cover some of it. Turns out my insurance covered most of it, so it was much cheaper. Like you said hersmudder - it was the gesture that mattered more than the money. PS glad you two are happy. Link to comment
KG Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 The gesture is more meaningful than the money. "Hers", you got a good one! Link to comment
anonymity56 Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 I've typically paid for it, with one exception where the girl was on it before we met and on it after we parted ways. It runs like $35-40 a month, which is no big deal. Link to comment
CBG Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 I pay for the condoms, she pays for the pills. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted February 5, 2010 Share Posted February 5, 2010 it hasn't really crossed my mind, because I usually went to the doctor by myself so i ended up paying for it. I've also never had anything really costly, just pills and patches. but that was cool of him to say it's also partly his responsibility. Makes me think he also thinks this way in other aspects of the relationship, and that is a very good thing. Link to comment
mustard1234 Posted February 6, 2010 Share Posted February 6, 2010 I have always ALWAYS gone halves on all forms of bc. Condoms, and I had a diaphragm also. I put it to the guys (...there have only been 2...) as if sharing the finances absolutely wasn't an option. Worked fine for me in both cases. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted February 6, 2010 Share Posted February 6, 2010 I have never been in the situation where expensive birth control was used. I have only experienced each person paying for their own birth control. I can see how the gesture would mean something. Personally I dont know if I would offer or not. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted February 6, 2010 Share Posted February 6, 2010 I'm glad birth control is free here, can ever get free condoms. Link to comment
jadenrain Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 I think that should only apply to a long term relationship if it's only used for bc if its medical then the female Link to comment
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