break the ice? lay it slow? what do i do?

[Agrajag]

ok, there is this girl (duh!) at my school that i am very interested in. know, we've been to the same school for about 4 years now, and i haven't talked to her before. i wanna start a friendship, and hopefully lead it into something more. in the time of this 4 years, she may have picked up an impression of me already, and by her clinque - id say it may be a negative one. but i think that should be an easy one to turn around if ive never said much to her. ive talked to her twice this week, just asking a random question. but i really need an 'ice breaker' here (the ice isnt broken, maybe just cracked). and then ill see what happens after that. but i just wanna get into regualr converation, and to getta know her. i need everthing here. pickup lines, ice breakers, way to lay things slow (such as aquiring a phone number), jokes to crack, how to keep the conversation going (im bad here)...help me please, thanks in advance.

 

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[jujigatame]

Pickup lines and prefabricated ice-breakers are crap. What you need to do is be confident and feel at home approaching her, so you can shoot from the hip and nail a bullseye. Get as much practice at social interaction as you can: Say hi to everyone you see whose name and face you know, boys and girls alike. It'll make you an army of acquaintances within a few weeks, and gives you a lot of confidence. I started doing this about midway through first semester this year. Since then, I've made about five new friends, fixed a few old friendships in need of attention, and garnered myself an army of acquaintances. All it takes is a wave, a smile, and "Hi, Stan!" Along the way, you'll get into countless opportunities to make small talk and exchange jokes. It's a great way to sharpen your skills for hunting the big game - the ladies.

 

As for the fine art of flirting, compliments are the surest way to give yourself an "in" to the opening exchange with your quarry. Be sure to pick out the little details that she focuses a lot of thought on, but nobody says anything about - how her shirt brilliantly offsets the color of her hair, or how she's one of the gifted few who genuinely make glasses look good. "You've got beautiful ____" is a dime a dozen. Zero creativity points. Take a moment to create a masterpiece that's sure to get her attention. However, don't tell her you like something that you honestly don't - girls can smell that a mile away, and it don't smell sweet.

 

After the compliment, just fire away with whatever flows naturally. That's all you can really do. If you freeze up, just leave it at the compliment and walk off for the time being. Guerrilla tactics! Leave her wondering what turned you into a suave lady-killer all of a sudden.

 

Take it naturally, big shooter. It all comes into place sooner or later.

[Agrajag]

ok, so im in school now, and evertime i pass her by ill say "HI ____". Now usualy this is between classes, and she may not here me or see me. hmm. anyway, how long before i start doing more....what about if i wrote her a note or something...

[Agrajag]

any comments?

[Araxoth]

Just one. If you're going to write her a note, have the decency to hand it to her personally. Just give it to her, and tell her to read it later, or something. Don't have people running around with your notes... It makes it appear that you're scared.

[Agrajag]

ok, what if she shows her friends?

 

also - can someone help with with content

[Pengui6668]

are you embarrassed to like her? if not who cares if she shows her friends... Some female friends will giggle of course, but some others will probably be like "aww, that's sweet". Give her a note if you can't talk well (i know i suck at talking to girls), maybe put you email, or instant messenger name on therer so she can talk to you out of school, phone number probably wouldn't be too forward, but i'm still trying to figure wmen out so.. good luck man.. Just remember, be confident, girls love guys who look confident. don't slouch, don't stutter, look her in the eyes, bite your lip, wink, lick your lips, not a lot, but every once in a while when you get into a conversation.. most of all, have fun! this shouldn't be something that's really difficult, just think of it as fun and it should come easier.

[Agrajag]

ok, i havent even read the last post.

 

recently there was a major incident where on of our friends died and she is really hurting and is crying and whatnot...

 

it is MURDERING me to see her like this....

 

Any way i can use this? like - i really hate to see her this way, im so depressed it is insane...i wann help

 

 

what should i say, and whEN, what NOT to say, and when NOT to say it, condolence gift? maybe.....I HAVE NO IDEA........

[Agrajag]

ak, NOW i read Pengui6668's post!

 

if she passes it around, it shouws she doesn't like me? thats what i thought anyway...

[Agrajag]

just trying to keep this on top