how should I act when we get back together?

[natash24]

thanks for all of your persectives which I agree with all. I am amazed to get three responses from men and am so glad for it. I guess I have to have more patience with him since it has been 6 months. i think I criticize him too much because he used to say I love you to me ever so often, then I told him not to say it anymore because I don't feel loved. I suppose that has made him self conscious or something like that. Can I turn things around and do men forget easily? Also another question how much will men put up with if they don't love a women. I mean do they keep them around just to have someone? I mean with my boyfriend and I it's not about the sex because we don't have much of it because he is so stressed out and tired all the time( maybe 2 times a week at most). So sometimes I think he is keeping me around until he finds someone else because I figure he would try harder. All we do is hang out and that's it. Sometimes he plans things but again he is not very romantic as he used to be. Could be that he is busy with work. Also I have asked him for 2 weeks off so I can rethink things and he can get a chance to miss me. when I do see him how should I act? All mysterious like I had a blast without him or run into his arms and tell him I love him. Sometimes I think he needs to feel like he would loose me in order to appreciate me. Well please write back and thanks!

[jl301]

Hey natash24,

 

It really sounds like that this not really balance relationship. I don't know what is meaning of your first breakup. I guess you do love him a lot or you confuse about your feelings about him. By the way you are saying that he just keeping you around so he could just have somebody by his side. I know that you are thinking up so many scernarios in your head that while is he acting this way. I say sit him down and actually talk to him and tell him how you feel about him and this relationship. Bottomline, I believe is that I don't think he being fair to you. If you really want this relationship then make every effort to make it work then. I know that is going to be hard work and that you might get hurt by him again. I believe that if you really want something, then you should go after it. I think is a good idea for you to take it break from him and to think about it what you want out of this relationship. I don't think you want to go back into that unhealthy relations. This is just my view of yet. I hope it helps. remember you are not the only one other there. There are many of us on this forum and that everyone has a story of their own. Hopefully it will get better for you, keep us posted.

 

jl301