fracas Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 My gf and I are trying to arrange a threesome, but we haven't yet put much effort into the search for another female partner because we've been so busy. Well, the other day a gorgeous girl who fits our physical criteria perfectly approached me and started a conversation, showing obvious interest. I was on my lunch break and unable to stay and chat, so I asked for her number and told her that I'd call her. So here's the question - What now? This girl showed interest in me and doesn't even know yet that I have a gf, and certainly doesn't expect that I'm only interested in bringing her in as a third. So how do I take this unexpected situation and try to turn it into the desired outcome? There are several paths that we could take, but I wonder which has the greatest chance of success. Do I just call her, get to know her a little over the phone and then drop the bomb? Or do I let her know first-thing about the gf and invite her to hang out as friends as if I had no idea she was interested in me in the first place, only to breach the subject of a 3-way weeks or months later? What do you think? We were planning to just find someone online, but this girl is exactly what we were hoping to find. Link to comment
Changedtoolate Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Personally, I think you have already ruined the chance to make this happen with positive results with this girl. She should have been at least told that you have a girlfriend before numbers were exchanged, and if not, immediately after prior to leaving. Remember she was interested in you by yourself, your girlfriend was not around and there was no mention of her. By the way, does your girlfriend know about you having this other girls number? If you are trying to truly have a successful encounter, I would suggest that you and your girlfriend either continue the online route together or go out together to areas where "criteria" you look for is met by both of you and not just one. I say forget this one, there will be plenty more who are equally attractive to both of you. Link to comment
mca1975 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 This all sounds very sordid, like you are preying on unsuspecting women. You should have just kept it as friends and told her about your wife and tried to meet up altogether. I think the minute this girl finds out you have a girlfriend who also wants to get friendly, he is going to run a mile! You need to make your enquiries within a place where other people are looking for that I think, ie. on-line or at parties or something!? Link to comment
fracas Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 Yeah, well as I said before, we had no intentions of meeting someone while just out and about. We were planning to use the internet. How could it seem that I'm "preying" on women? I didn't approach her and never mentioned anything about us getting together in any capacity. The entire meeting lasted just a few minutes, and most of that was just small talk, until I noticed the time and told her that I needed to get back to work, at which point she asked if I would call her sometime and I got her number. I considered telling her that I had a gf, but then I thought that it would seem more sketchy to tell her but then to still ask for her number. Rather than just give up, I might just give her a call and after some small talk tell her everything and see how she reacts. Worst case, she'll say "no", so it's not a big deal. Link to comment
Mia_of_Doom Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I think one of the first things you should do is ask her if she's into girls or at least curious about them. If she responds positively, then you should drop the gf + threesome bomb. I think it's better to do sooner than later. It wouldn't be fair to string her along, getting to know her for a bit, then drop them on her as she's becoming more interested in you as a supposedly single guy. Honestly, the odds don't sound very good. But it's worth a shot. Finding the right third person is the hardest part of a threesome after all. Link to comment
Changedtoolate Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Still think you should let your girlfriend in on your plans before you do them. Something along the lines of "hey babe, I met this girl today that is attractive and fits what we were looking for and have her number....." Every thing you do to make this happen, she should be a part of it or at least have knowledge of it. Link to comment
fracas Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 To be clear, since at least one person seems, somehow, not to have understood as much, the gf is all aboard with this and is hoping to meet her. Good point, Mia. That was the plan, although I hadn't gone into such detail on here. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 ^^^yeah, explain to your gf the situation. you will also have to explain to this other girl what your intentions are. also, your gf might be upset that you took some girl's number. i don't know her so i can't say. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I think that you have to be honest with her from the start, this is because I dont think that the blindsided approach works. This girl is either going to be interested in the 3some or she wont. The idea that you can pick the right way of asking her presupposes that she would say yes. Link to comment
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.