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I date my ex for a year, i never felt anything like this before, i was always attracted to him, we had great sex and it felt like real love....i was warned by friends before dating him that he had a bad wrap but i wanted to give him a chance. so there was slight trust issues but nothing serious..I was stressed out trying to find a job about five months into it and being an emotional person had some bad days, around that time i found him accessing a datingsite from my computer. from then on we tried to make it work but he still used myspace and never really made serious attempts to fix anthing.

we broke up for two months....i was devastated..

after two months of being apart he came back and was perfect he did beautiful things for me and was always there when i needed him...

i had some issues with him and would drive him crazy bc every so often i would become very jealous....one day i had a gut feeling so i drove to his house to find he wasnt there and was lieing...he broke it off and made up a lie about being at the gym and kept telling me i was absolutely crazy....

a week later he apologized but still insisted he was where he said he was...

we worked it out and i later found he lied about the gym and said he was doing coke at a friends house and didnt want to tell me...i wasnt sure if i believed that either....i dont use drugs....but felt it was too convienent,,

i as a very level headed person but the passion for him was so intense i let it go....

he still continued treating me like a princess and like a best friend so i stayed,,but my jeaousy and craziness persisted....i saw him lie once to his sister and play it off so well i started thinking he would just lie to me all the time...he always acted as if me noticing hose things was dramatic and blown out of proportion....i love him so much i just keep thinking its me not just accepting my happiness....

the end came when i for a few weeks i kept questioning him about why he had an internet blocker on his computer he said bc he didnt want me to see the porn and it was embarrassing but i couldnt believe he would do that after i caught him on the computer before..that was it for him...all i would want todo was talka bout it and he would get off the phone or refuse if i didnt accept that he loved me and to drop it....i would go crazy over being ignored....we broke up and again iwas devasted...i felt like my jealousy got in the way of my happiness ...

he broke up with me and said maybe a year from now we can end up together but its over..

he always made me feel like i was the greatest thingon earth and he acted like he couldnt believe he had me i feel likei reuined everything.....i even accepted that he had herpes bc he was on medication...he didnt tell me tha tuntill two months in....

am i crazy or was it me that couldnt let go and be happy.

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there is always the chance for you to move on....

 

maybe you where right about him lieing to you... and if he was lieing to you than there is no point in waisting time with him anymore...

 

moving on is a good opcion... maybe you'll find someone better then him... who won't lie to you ...

 

anyway... Good Luck!

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once someone starts lying, it's hard to find trust in them again. If it were me, someone lying about being somewhere else to do some hard drugs would be breaking a lot of trust. So he'll lie to you if he doesn't want you to know something that may upset you or you wouldn't like, who knows what else he will lie about?

 

If you were to reconcile today, would you be able to relax and not feel on edge he is lying a week from now? You'll keep driving yourself crazy never knowing whats the truth or not.

 

My ex did the same thing with lying, getting caught, made excuses, hiding things and it was torture for me never knowing when he was being honest or not.

 

It's not your fault, it could be partially his for lying, or maybe it just comes down to poor communication and yous aren't a good match. You need to find someone that doesn't lie and lose your trust and that can be open and honest all the time. Your ex needs someone that will be cool with him hiding things and lying.

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