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5 Secrets Happy Couples Know That M...
5 Secrets Happy Couples Know That Most Don’t

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It’s as if you have tried EVERYTHING to find that one person that loves you, and no matter what you do, you can't find love.


Well, here's a little secret about attraction:



Learning how to love yourself is

the foundation of any love relationship.

If you don't love YOU, you can't love anyone else. Period.


What does loving yourself mean?


BEING AWARE - Knowing who you are, how you act, what you believe, and why you think certain ways. Knowing your boundaries, strengths and weaknesses.


BEING VALUABLE - Recognizing your own worth and the validity of your opinions. Providing value to others because you tap into your individual talents.


BEING YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND - Liking, respecting, and trusting yourself. Treating yourself well. Taking care of your needs.


BEING ASSERTIVE - Confidently expressing your unique "I" in the world. Being proactive rather than reactive and staying true to yourself.


BEING COMMITTED - Acting in accordance with your personal development or spiritual growth. Making "growth" your number one priority.


BEING SELFISH (or SELF-MINDFUL) - Respecting yourself and not tolerating disrespect from others. Neither sacrificing yourself to others, nor letting others sacrifice themselves to you.


BEING RESPONSIBLE - Knowing that you are ultimately responsible for all outcomes in your life, positive and negative, and that you alone make the choices which create your experience.


BEING HAPPY ALONE - Enjoying your own company and using solitude for nourishment to reboot your energy. That way you can share love without getting depleted.



The most important person in your life is you. The person who you love the most in the world should be you! Why not? Who better than you?


"YOU" are the one person you have to spend every waking moment of your life with.


"YOU" are the only person who will be there for you when no one else is.


"YOU" are all you have no matter what.


When you first love yourself, you will give yourself what you need. You will become highly attractive to others because you are coming to them out of wholeness, not out of a repulsive neediness. You will be able to have fulfilling relationships, and you will have no problem ending relationships which don't serve your growth.


The concept is simple, though it isn't easy to learn how to love yourself. It's going to take some hard work. Are you ready for it?


By becoming self-mindful, taking it step-by-step, and developing self-confidence, you can increase your overall happiness in love and life.



All you have to do is FIRST LOVE YOU and everything else will fall into place.

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No one understands this thread but the truth is YOU are the SHOW STOPPERS. What I mean is that we have to LEARN how to accept change.


A confident man/woman accepts change.


I have suffered alot and still do at times cause I couldnt let go. I am still working on it.


If you dont learn while you are going thru this how to love yourself....HISTORY WILL REPEAT ITS SELF AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN.


Some people need to be out of our lives. They dont deserve the love we give and When you begin to understand YOURSELF more, you wont have to be involved with people who dont love and respect you.


It is something we have to work on

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Excellent post. Very true. I would like to re-enforce the 'being happy alone' part. I never knew how to do this before, and after my most recent break up with my g/f of 7 years, I had no idea what to do with myself. It took some time, but slowly I started to once again enjoy my hobbies---music, working out, motorcycles. I once dreaded spending every night and weekend alone, but that soon turned into what I was most looking forward to. Eventually the mindset of 'if I'm alone the rest of my life, that would be ok' took over, and as soon as that happened, someone walked into my life. Funny how things work out. Having someone in your life is a wonderful thing, but in order for that to work, you have to be 100% ok with who you are first.

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