Lonewing Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I'd take up the offer. But I'm a guy. I'm not emotional about this sort of thing. Ah, me myself and I, I really like Oral...so My girl has to be 100% CLEAN, Because they don't make condoms for hte lips, mouth, tonge and throat yet!!! And she has ruined that cleanliness by sleeping with another man. Link to comment
SpeedingCars Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 ugh... My ex did that, he used me for a really long time before I finally realized he didnt secretly like me and really didn't want to get back together Nice to me when he wanted me to come over (after a long periods of ignoring or coldness). At least I learned from it and will never ever do it again! He was a really good actor when he needed to be. NC really was the solution and sure enough he sent me an email a few months later saying sorry with about a thousand euphimisms for what he did in his email. Same.... except no apology. I felt so weak everytime he came around. It stung to see how little respect he held for me because he was so comfortable asking for sex. Then again, why should he respect me? I didn't even respect myself since I kept sleeping with him over and over again... In a way I thought he'd come back because the sex was good. Wow, I'm stupid!! Link to comment
loulee Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Silence is your weapon. Tell him that you respect yourself and you wish to maintain friendships only with other people that respect you also.. not with people that clearly do not. And casually let him know he falls into the latter category... Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted August 23, 2009 Author Share Posted August 23, 2009 Ah, me myself and I, I really like Oral...so My girl has to be 100% CLEAN, Because they don't make condoms for hte lips, mouth, tonge and throat yet!!! And she has ruined that cleanliness by sleeping with another man. You know, I used to be a bit tough on people who likes to sleep with people casually. But as long as they are honest with their intentions, are clean or atleast use protection and atleast care for the person in a physical way, then I see no problems with two people having sex if they find each other attractive. Your girl could be sleeping with other men but how do you know she has STDs now? Just a thought. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 When my ex decided he no longer loved and me and just wanted sex, I went NC. It's okay, if you can remain detached - but I wanted more. Link to comment
SighSob Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I don't want to be a friend to someone who treated me like garbage. But sex is welcome. So, enemies with benefits, why not? Link to comment
BriarRose Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Best thing to do is simply cut all ties on a permanent basis. .. I agree this is the only thing to do. Unless you can remain totally detached and still sleep with them...I can't. Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 OUCH! Thats so harsh. I'd slap him, but I don't know how someone recovers from that kind of disrespect. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I would sayyyy 'No way no how' Im not into casual sex, especially when it didnt used to be casual, its a weird trainsition. Link to comment
atlanticstar Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I have been asked this exact question by an ex before. Most guys would have been happy with that and jumped at the chance but me... no way. Sex doesn't have any real value without the emotions in my opinion. Intimacy with someone you have feelings for is just divine! You do kinda wonder what they actually felt for you in the first place to even suggest this. Link to comment
furious Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Sex doesn't have any real value without the emotions in my opinion. You'd be feeling lust, which is an emotion. If you didn't feel that then you wouldn't be having sex with them in the first place. It sure beats masturbating, which is nearly emotionless as well as less pleasurable. Link to comment
blitzkrieged Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Wow, your ex sure sounds like Prince Charming. I'm sorry you had to go through that... It was so scary for me because, he would flirt with me and text me like EVERYDAY and I thought maybe hey, we must be getting good friends which was nice... Nope. He just wants me in bed and that's it. Ugh. For real. You feel close to them at the moment... and its what you want more than anything after they just suddenly removed you from their lifeand broke your heart. I endured enough lonely late night walks to the bus stop/subway after essentially getting kicked out, cause it was his bedtime. Until I finally asked myself what the hell I was doing. He didnt even have the decency to drive me home after like the first 2 times and I actually put up with it! Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 For real. You feel close to them at the moment... and its what you want more than anything after they just suddenly removed you from their lifeand broke your heart. I endured enough lonely late night walks to the bus stop/subway after essentially getting kicked out, cause it was his bedtime. Until I finally asked myself what the hell I was doing. He didnt even have the decency to drive me home after like the first 2 times and I actually put up with it! Cold! That kind of arrogance usually elicits revenge in my book. Link to comment
littlestar Posted August 27, 2009 Share Posted August 27, 2009 I'd have sex with my ex in a heart beat. Link to comment
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