CoCo2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 I have been healing pretty well lately. I have been working out, reading books I like, watching old shows I love, talking to my mom, hanging out with my mom and my sister. I met a guy who's really nice. I still need to find a job but I love my apartment because it has been newly painted and I fixed it up nicely the way I like it being single. But now I'm waiting for something bad to happen. Such as not finding a job, or my car breaking down, or the new guy to turn out to not be not so nice. I can't be happy without thinking something bad is gonna happen. I just don't understand it, I guess. What do I do? Link to comment
hers Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 If something bad does happen, you'll get through it. You've gotten through bad things before, right? You'll get through more. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Share Posted August 19, 2009 I'm tired of bad stuff happening, I want something good to happen for a change. I just want to be happy for a change. You know what I mean? Link to comment
hers Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 I know. Condition your mind. Tell yourself nothing bad will happen. But just in case it does, you'll be ok. That's all you need to do. Just have faith that you'll be ok and you'll be ok. Link to comment
Cheeks18 Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 From your your first post sounds like a lot of good is happening. Nothing to worry about just keep on trucking!! You will get through any problems that arise, life goes on!! Link to comment
Ac143 Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 This is life, something bad will eventually happen. That's just how it goes, but you can't sit there and just wait for it to happen or even think about it. Keep doing what you are doing & enjoy your life at the moment. Link to comment
Qut81 Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 Have you ever watched the movie "The Secret"? I believe some of that is true. I am working on this myself but when you put so much focus on something bad happening...it usually does. Enjoy your happiness right now and like Hers said, you will get thru it if it does happen. (hers...you are so wise Link to comment
hers Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 haha, not wise...just know what i've been through and how i've gotten through it. just remember: pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. we're human. we'll go through bad things. it happens. it's life. but we don't have to suffer! Link to comment
djcom80429770 Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 agreed..this way of thinking is basically fullfilling your own prophecy, your just waiting for something to come along so you kinda say "i knew it" life comes at you like waves..sometimes on your on the crest other times your caught under the tides..Its how we deal with those times that make us strong, If we never have anything bad happen, we would never learn and grow.. Link to comment
coolchick64 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Just yesterday I realized that the best thing to come out my crappy situation with ex-bf is that he put me through hell and I lived through it. No matter what happens next, I know I'm strong enough to handle it. I'm invincible!! Coco, you can't stop bad things from happening and you sure can't give up all the good just to protect yourself. Know that you're strong enough to handle the worst. You've done it once. If you have to, you can do it again : ) Link to comment
ihavereasons Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Have you ever watched the movie "The Secret"? I believe some of that is true. I am working on this myself but when you put so much focus on something bad happening...it usually does. Enjoy your happiness right now and like Hers said, you will get thru it if it does happen. (hers...you are so wise This poster is correct. Positive thinking will help you handle anything that comes your way. It may even give you the right frame of mind to make some good things happen for yourself too. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 Hey thanks you guys, I have never seen the movie "The Secret" though. When I think about my ex I think about how blind I was in thinking he was so great. He told me one time that no one would ever treat me as good as he does..and HE DID NOT TREAT ME GOOD. I was brainwashed into thinking I was this evil jerk of a bad girlfriend when in actuality I was just really really unhappy and was taking it out on him when I should have broken up with him a loooooooong time ago. So yeah he wasn't great at all. I am feeling so good lately, like my eyes are finally open. Oh and if he didn't break up with me I would still be with him trying to make it work! THANK YOU JESUS THAT IS NOT HAPPENING. lol Link to comment
hers Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Coco you've come such a long way. So proud of you! Link to comment
Ac143 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Wow, awesome! Im so happy you are feeling good Keep it up.. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 thanks hersmudders. I remember almost a year ago when I was still going through all the bad stuff I prayed to God to please help me get out of that relationship, I was laying in bed crying after a fight...and we fought a lot, it probably sounds funny because i'm asking for help to get out of a relationship when I could just end it on my own, but I couldn't do it I felt like I couldn't live without him (so dumb) . I guess this was how it was supposed to happen because I feel so glad that I'm not still there in that horrible relationship, I feel like I was dead inside for so long now I'm not anymore. But I'm a religious person so I'm not sure if many people would agree with me. Either way something happened that got me out of that relationship. Link to comment
hers Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 And you know what else? You'll go into your next relationship knowing how you don't want to act and how you don't want to be treated and you will have a better one. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 And you know what else? You'll go into your next relationship knowing how you don't want to act and how you don't want to be treated and you will have a better one. Exactly, I know I will not let a guy treat me any kind of way he feels like it, and I won't let a guy stand me up or be late all the time. My ex was always late and unreliable, always being irresponsible. I know what I want now, and I won't treat another guy bad because if I'm not happy I know how to express myself better! Link to comment
hers Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Yay! Glad to hear this! You're definitely the "model" for people who think their lives are over after a breakup. Show people that it CAN get better! Link to comment
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