Hopefully Not Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 not all men are like this so I'd appreciate an answer from someone who feels this way: i find that my boyfriend finds himself really jealous of guys who I've had a past with, even if i don't communicate with them anymore. its irrational but its honestly an issue. So... any insights and how can i help make the issue less of an issue maybe? Date someone more mature. Otherwise make it know that you're no longer willing to entertain his childish insecurities. And stick to it. Good luck. Link to comment
doyathink Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Thanks to all the guys who've stayed with this thread, and answered questions for the last 20 pages lol. You are appreciated. Link to comment
tasha1133 Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 Date someone more mature. Otherwise make it know that you're no longer willing to entertain his childish insecurities. And stick to it. Good luck. Its ONE problem that we have. the rest of the time, we are wonderful together, I don't feel like i should give up because of ONE problem,I really just need an insight as to how i can help solve the problem. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Would you get jealous if a gal looks at other men while dating/during your relationship? I already heard enough on the women's side (many for some reason can't stand their men doing that), now how about on your side? And another one.. How you react if a gal is into looking at porn? You get jealous too? When a girl looks at other guys when she is with me I don't get jealous. It just Hurts. It hurts deep. Porn is entertainment - I get that. And we can entertain each other later... Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 not all men are like this so I'd appreciate an answer from someone who feels this way: i find that my boyfriend finds himself really jealous of guys who I've had a past with, even if i don't communicate with them anymore. its irrational but its honestly an issue. So... any insights and how can i help make the issue less of an issue maybe? No body knows you better than your exs...and you had something in common with them, which is why you were with them once in the first place. There is no greater competition than...that last guy. You're going to have to minimize contact with them, and not go out of your way to be friendly to them - if you see them, be cordial, but not out of your way to be nice. It's not that difficult, they are your exes. Link to comment
Jadewhisper Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Why do certain guys act cold? Link to comment
LivingToday Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Hmm...are the two of you young? Sometimes young guys act more of jerks due to lack of experience or not familiar with having females as friends. What he did was definitely not the way to go about it and he better learn down the road. If my friend was upset like that, I'd do my best to be listening and give advice (if she is looking for it). Sometimes people want to let it out to someone, no real response needed. I have a friend who kinda fits what your friend does, not because he's mean or anything but because he probably doesn't have much experience on HOW to act. I would like to think most people aren't cold and heartless. Link to comment
Jadewhisper Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 I'm generally a happy person,but it seems the people I care about have not been sticking around lately. I feel like I push everyone away and I don't mean it to be that way. I don't feel I have done anything wrong. :sad: Thank you guys for being here to answer questions! Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 How do you react if a girl you're meeting and/dating tells you she's a virgin and it's true?? What are your thoughts going on inside your mind afterwards?? Quick flashback, I was a bit embarassed when I met my boyfriend. I did end up telling him (embarrassing look on my face) thought I wanted to make up a story with a phony history but then again, he would have found out eitherway...... Interesting, he first thought I was lying to sound cool, lol... Then off course when I made it obvious, then he knew it was true... Link to comment
Resolute Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 How do you react if a girl you're meeting and/dating tells you she's a virgin and it's true?? What are your thoughts going on inside your mind afterwards?? Quick flashback, I was a bit embarassed when I met my boyfriend. I did end up telling him (embarrassing look on my face) thought I wanted to make up a story with a phony history but then again, he would have found out eitherway...... Interesting, he first thought I was lying to sound cool, lol... Then off course when I made it obvious, then he knew it was true... I dont really see what would make the situation akward at all, its a fact of life, everyone is a virgin at some time, and if that made anything akward wouldn't everyone be a virgin and the human race have died out? its not a big deal but im just speaking for myself, how did your boyfriend react? did he make it feel akward? moreso than nessecary? Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 how did your boyfriend react? did he make it feel akward? moreso than nessecary?Nothing at first.Then when it was obvious, he just said to let him know when I'm ready, to take my time, there's no rush... It was later on, many months after it happened that he told me that at first when he didn't know me well as now, he thought I was lying and making that up to sound cool. Link to comment
Lucius Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 How do you react if a girl you're meeting and/dating tells you she's a virgin and it's true?? I wouldn't really think anything of it. I guess I might feel curious as to why she was a virgin (for religious reasons, high standards, self-respect, hang-ups, etc), but it would be a fairly fleeting curiosity. It's not a bad thing (nor is it really a good thing) - it's just a thing. My only real response would be to feel glad that she was comfortable enough to tell me this thing that obviously made her so self-conscious. Link to comment
Resolute Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Nothing at first.Then when it was obvious, he just said to let him know when I'm ready, to take my time, there's no rush... It was later on, many months after it happened that he told me that at first when he didn't know me well as now, he thought I was lying and making that up to sound cool. sounds like a quality guy just from those few sentences i can say you should count your blessings, i know some really pathetic excuses for men lol but to each their own lol Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I don't really like dresses (not even if I were to get marry), is that an issue? Link to comment
Resolute Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I don't really like dresses (not even if I were to get marry), is that an issue? On a casual day, wearing a dress is unnessecary, but ill have to say for marriage you might just hate it for a bit and be married lol, or make a joke out of it and make him wear a dress and you the tux, that could be funny Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Actually I was think of just wearing jeans and a shirt for that date. The clothes will be somewhat elegant off course but just not the typical white dress, ugh... Link to comment
Resolute Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Whats got you not liking dresses? simple opinion on them or were you raised as more of a tomboy? just curious Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Whats got you not liking dresses? simple opinion on them or were you raised as more of a tomboy? just curious in my baby and early toddler pictures, there is me in dresses. I guess it's when I started growing up and they couldn't dressed me up no more LOL than my clothes started changing into shirts, jeans and sometimes skirts.. I don't why I like them that much.... Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 a girl wearing jeans and a t-shirt on our wedding day might put me off a bit. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 You could rock a wedding skirt...though you might get some strange looks if it is too short... Link to comment
furious Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 You could rock a wedding skirt...though you might get some strange looks if it is too short... I can see the looks on my aunt's faces. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 Wait till Auntie sees the little metal pole Uncle Bert Reynolds put on the wedding cake behind the figurines...Ten years later you're still arguing on the phone with your mother, declaring for the ten thousandth time that your wife IS NOT and WAS NEVER a dancer, No matter HOW MANY TIMES Auntie raves to her about how you married a harlot! I'm hoping I just get married someday, that's all that I ask... Link to comment
cristina311 Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 I hope no one posted this question before. I am wondering how long men feel comfortable staying at the stage of ambiguity? Also, if you men want to move forward, how do you guys do it? Besides, if it's the women make the first move, how do you think of it? Link to comment
Resolute Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 i've never had a problem with women making the first move, it takes alot of stress off of us guys. of course this is all situational and too much isn't bad per-se but it indicates that the guy may not be completely comfortable or confident in him self. but thats just my opinion, and its objectionable Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 How much you mind if a woman doesn't really know how to make certain dishes, esp. the elaborate food plus doesn't like cooking that much (is lazy)? I just know how to do the basics (rice, frying, bowling things)... but I can survive if was left home alone for weeks... but nothing comparing to both my mother and grandmother....LOL Not that I never care to learn but I don't like the kitchen, let's call it laziness.... nothing than writing here, reading articles online and playing checkers when all of the sudden mother comes, telling us it's all ready.... Nothing funner than your food being ready, not you doing it... Link to comment
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