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Well its been 2months and 1 week and 5 days since me and my exgf broke up out of a 2.2 year relationship. She left cause she was interested in another guy.......ive done no contact for 1month and 3 weeks..............i was going good, had my bad and good days...good days outnumbering the badd. been exercising alot trying to eat healthy, going out more, socialising been active in my chruch group and volunteering....

 

but yeah im at the stage where when i have dreams about certain girls, i end up dreaming about her. i swear it wakes me up.

i stumbled into my rents camera the other day and decided to go through pictures of me and her and my family....big mistake, doesnt hurt when i looked at them but remember how pretty she really was and how good we looked together, then itll hit me the next day and feel sad..had a quick cry after but got over it.

 

i think it just hurts cause we were so close and she moved on so quick.......everything we went through and how i was there for her......too much....but in the end she couldnt even wait 1 week at the least or even a month...........dont know where was the respect at least to the relationship...

 

im holding up, but i know im in the depression stage right now and im still fighting it with exercise and keeping busy and thinking postive.

 

i think this is just a vent....also for all the peeps finding it hard.. remember "it maybe a hard day today but tomorrow is always a better day" if u believe that it will be...it got me through my bad days...also try to keep urself busy and have refelcton time at nice places.

 

also accept its over...its hard but accept...right now im struggling to keep accepting it cause theres always that part of you that doesnt wanna give up...im there right now and i know its over, i just need to keep making the same decision to keep accepting it so i wont break the NC rule and get messed up....

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Good post. I think it's important for everyone who's having difficulty healing from a breakup to see articles like yours. It's harder on our own psyche to believe that it's easy for everyone else. It's not. Good days DO start to outnumber the bad ones, though. You've also demo'd why it's not a good idea to go through pictures or letters, or worse--to track an ex on a social board. The goal is to move FORward, not to stagnate in pain. When in hell, don't stop moving.

 

Thanks, and in your corner.

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yea i have been there and man it it took only three months to actually completely feel better but those seem to be the longest three months ever.. come to realize she end up coming back... but it just didnt seem to be the same no more.. u know.. at first it seems like yes i finally get her back but then realize your better then that.. u deserve someone that wont leave u and hurt u in the first place.. so hopefully dont plan on trying to get back unlesss u want to experience it all. ha stay happy thats the best way to go

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thanks guys

yeah im on that stage right now that my mind is playing tricks on me. i know she did wrong, i know i deserve better but now its just the memories and i think its cause i looked at pics of me and her. now i really know not to...i ive only ever looked at her facebook 4 times and the last time was 3 weeks ago and before that was 3 weeks ago.

so yeah i think i really have to stop looking at the pics, i think when i started looking at the very few pics i had left of me and her thats when this whole not giving up started....learnt my lesson

thanks peeps

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