sarahN Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Ok. I recently posted on here about my innocent younger "hook-up" that was not getting fully *hard*. Well, after a late night online conversation, it turns out he was molested by someone insanely close to him. So first off, I only wanted some fun, but now I'm involved. I'm not going to be a douche, he is very beautiful, and I love him like a friend at this point. The trouble is that he is already emotionally depending on me. I noticed he was getting very attached to me too fast, now I know why. How do i approach this situation? I literally was having pure fun, but now that this came out I have no idea how to deal. I barely know him, but he is obviously still suffering and I really want to help him out. He even insinuated that he was in love with me, which scares me, for his sake. He is so sweet and I really do care about him because it's in my nature but I don't know how to deal with this. I have my own issues. Only me. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 You have to push him towards therapy. Without getting too involved in it. That said, part of me wonders (after you listing the emotional dependence and quick attachment) whether he's not telling you this because he wants you to feel obliged. Link to comment
sarahN Posted August 15, 2009 Author Share Posted August 15, 2009 ummm. yeah, i thought about that. i also offered to go to therapy with him. i'm so naive if he's faking. whatever. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 i also offered to go to therapy with him. I don't think there's anything niave about assuming that this is something people wouldn't lie about or use for gain. That said, I wouldn't offer to go to therapy with him. If he's clingy now, that's only going to tie him more to you, and cruel as this sounds, it's not your problem and you are not responsible for fixing it. Link to comment
DEANRI Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Get him to therapy. Don't try to save or rescue him. He will be codependent upon you. He's got to get himself fixed. You can't fix him. Link to comment
KG Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Get him to therapy. Don't try to save or rescue him. He will be codependent upon you. He's got to get himself fixed. You can't fix him. Spot on advice. Link to comment
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