Help Me Get Her Back... PLEASE!!!!

[Hart Broken]

My fiancee that I have been seeing for the last 5 years suddenly decided to up and leave me on Thursday gone. She told me at the time she no longer loved me (yet repeatedly told me she did in the morning?) and said there was no place in her heart for me.

 

Anyway, she left and On her way to her house she told my sister that she had been seeing another guy, but stressed that she had only been meeting him for drinks and a chat, and had not left me for him.

 

I kinda susspected this, because this guys name was being mentioned ALOT in the days leading up to the eventual sepparation. I text her like mad to get her to talk to me, but as I found at the time it just pushed her away...

 

I text her mom on the Saturday asking if she was ok, and if my (ex) was ok. She phoned me up and was real nice to me, saying how annoyed her and her husband were at her etc.

 

Saturday night I got a phone call off her... she wanted to talk, but I couldnt because my sister took me to the cinema to cheer me up. Anyway I told her Id call her back after, which I did. She didnt pick up, and then I text her to see why? She told me we would talk soon.

 

I got home and felt really, really shitty about the whole mess. I stayed up till gone 3am, writing this 4 page letter on how I felt, and how everything was set for a great future etc. I then went out and posted it.

 

To my surprise she called me on the Sunday evening, and we spoke for nearly 40 minutes about random stuff, and our relationship. She was telling me all about how she has been out every night/day since we broke up with her "friends" and this guy, getting drunk a lot. She then told me that we could still be close friends, because she still had feelings for me. Then we started talking about "what if", what if we got back together, what I want, what she wants, and I started to think she was gonna come back. THEN, about 10 minutes later she is back on the "we can be friends" speech, telling me she will be there for me etc.

 

We arranged for me to meet her on Thursday, to collect the rest of my stuff, and for me to take her stuff to her. Anyway, she told me we would talk properly then. I didnt tell her about the letter though.

 

Anyway, today we spoke, she got the letter last night, and was drunk so got angry and left a message on my phone asking me why? Then today, she was appologetic, and told me she hasnt read it yet, and she will do later.

 

Then she (imo) took great pleasure in telling me how she went out with that guy again last night, and he took her home.

 

Will I get her back? What do I do on Thursday?

 

HELP!!!

[stillthere]

"we can be friends" how can they even think about that....person that we loved and cared about and now just stay friends....to know that they are dating sombody else and than they tell us "we can be friends" i heard taht thing, too.... i didn't get her....how can you only stay friends with a person you cared so much about....naha...

 

stillthere

[Zip5]

you do not need her if she keeps tilling you about this guy alll the time she is just trying to get you jealous and right now by the way you are talking it is working you should just let it role over you back a ferget it you will find some one eles and who knows it may be the one. if she loves you or stills has feelings for you she still likes you for who you are.

[Hart Broken]

So what your all saying is that I should just forget about her and get another woman?

[sergio]

To put it simply..YES..QUIT. she's messing up with you dude. Its again the typical steriotype situation of the unsecure grl. if you remain friends she'll just start telling you stuff about her new bf..about how much fun they had together..you'll be her augony aunt, and he'll have all the fun..if you catch my drift.... And then one day if it works out, either with him or with someone else, you will get introduced as her nice sweet X...who;se her best friend..and then you'll have to shake her new bf's hand, and fake a smile, whilst what you really feel like doing is punching his face in. Do you wanna be another Saint nice guy? There's no feast or public holiday in your honour waiting for ya man!!

Tell her..i have enough friends, i really don't need an insecure looser like you, and just turn you back on her, go out with friends, party, and take more care about yourself. QUIT phoning her/messaging her etc.

I passed through your situation man, this is sound advice. Its long term advice, it will bear its fruits, because as much as they tell you to the contrary, no grl respects a guy with no pride and self esteem. running after her woun't get you anywhere, and she balances nice words with reality(she wants to dump you) for 2 reasons 1) to feel better about it, and 2) to lead you on. grls aren't like us in these situations, if she made up her mind, then unless you play cool there's little chance of getting her back...being nice guy will only make you loose the little pride you have left!

Take care dude