Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I feel hurt,disapointed and used and empty and lonely. Link to comment
rikka Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I am sorry to hear that - especially because you are going through such a rough phase right now. My thoughts are with you. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 thank you for the support. Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I'm sorry to hear that. Did something happen? Did you two have an argument? Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 He messaged We are both having (the same) (psychical) problems, us together makes it worse. Let's stay friends w/out having sex. Having sex w/ you is too much asked for me. We should both become strong ourselves. Link to comment
KG Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 He messaged We are both having (the same) (psychical) problems, us together makes it worse. Let's stay friends w/out having sex. Having sex w/ you is too much asked for me. We should both become strong ourselves. How about..."Becoming strong together, and sexually also." Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 KG, I know and agree and that's my thought now as well. For me this won't be a valuable reason to push someone away. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 Then he messaged me to ask to still meet up later this evening.Like he asked me earlier today and I agreed. I didn't respond.. Also have to add he just returned from psychiatrist. He acted like this few times before after visit there. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 Just messaged him back: Leave it. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 I always get only a few or even no reactions. Link to comment
XxJustMexX Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 He messaged you? Wow. Doesn't even have the balls to tell you in person let alone over the phone... that's pretty sad. Stay strong girl. Seems to me someone who would break up with someone over text/messaging isn't even worth it... Link to comment
rikka Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I personally feel he is right in his assessment. It isn't easy to hear and it doesn't make it any less painful, but you are not in a mental state to be in a relationship. You guys cannot use each other as support when neither of you are in a healthy place. You need to seek help independent of him and get yourself sorted out and healthy. And from the sounds of it, so does he. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted August 1, 2009 Author Share Posted August 1, 2009 I personally feel he is right in his assessment. It isn't easy to hear and it doesn't make it any less painful, but you are not in a mental state to be in a relationship. You guys cannot use each other as support when neither of you are in a healthy place. You need to seek help independent of him and get yourself sorted out and healthy. And from the sounds of it, so does he. then still it won't be a valuable reason for me to exclude someone for being a potential partner. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted August 1, 2009 Author Share Posted August 1, 2009 And Í don't let people attach if I can't guarantee to myself I won't hurt/let fall the other without a big valuable reason. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 I am sorry you're going through this. I understand it's painful and that you don't see his reason for breaking things off as being a valid one. I felt the same way about my ex-boyfriend as well -- that his reasons for ending things were not good ones; I was frustrated, hurt, and puzzled. I think, though, that with everything you're going through (health-wise, etc.) that it might actually be better if you and he backed away from a romantic relationship for awhile. When both people in a relationship are going through personal issues, it makes it much harder to make the relationship work in a healthy way. Maybe in the future the two of you can work things out. Again, I am sorry you're feeling badly. Do you think that you can consider being his friend sometime in the future? Link to comment
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