ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Well, first I'd like to start out by introducing myself. My name's Patrick, I live in Nevada, and I'm 17 years old. Having browsed the forums a bit, I look forward to asking the opinions of others on a few topics. Here's hoping people respond! Here goes: I'm completely infatuated with my girlfriend (don't get me wrong, It's not an obsession, and it's not lust. We've been together for five months now, and I'm in love with her.) She's sweet, caring, funny, beautiful, and a really enjoyable person to be around. She loves me very much, which is apparent, and I love her too. So things are perfect, right? --Well, I'm not sure... You see, I'm 17 and she's 15. I know that in five years an age difference so slight won't be a negative thing, but is it at this stage in my life? To justify it if I may, she is very mature for her age, and we're both in high school. As I said above, I'm in love with her. She truly is my dream girl, regardless of age. I won't break up with her due to the opinions of others, but I would like to know out of curiosity. So be honest, I can take it! Thanks in advance, I look forward to using these forums quite heavily in the future -ahandicap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LightbulbSun Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 A two year age difference isn't that much of an issue. I've seen people who are in college dating high school seniors, so it's pretty common to have an age difference. Plus, you're both still in high school. I think it's ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasouders Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 If you truly love her than age isn't a problem. Especially if sex isn't involved. When you turn eighteen you need to be careful. Sex shouldn't be a part of your relationship. A lot of men get themselves into trouble with this same dilema and i hate to see someone so young get himself into trouble. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 I'm not sure what the questions is, but I would hardly say that 15-17 is an "age difference". You're both on the same level, so what's the problem? It's not like you're 27 and she's 15, which IS an age gap AND a problem (imo). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkles4 Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 That's not so bad. When I was 14, I was dating a dude that was like 18. You're fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 Thanks for your speedy replies everyone, I appreciate it That makes me feel lots better. I just get a lot of crap for it at school, but what do they know, right? Lol Oh, and thank you especially jasouders, for the advice. I'll keep that in mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 i agree with others that it's still not a big gap and it shoudl be ok. just be careful taht if you are sexually active with each other and you turn 18 before she turns 16, you can get in trouble for statutory rape. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puckdog27 Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Im not sure what school you go to, but this was the norm at my school. All the good looking girls dated the senior guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Yeah, just keep sex out of it. When you turn 18, it poses all sorts of legal issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 Yeah, she'll be under-aged for just under a month after I turn 18. We'll just have to keep it on the DL. (I just posted my avatar. You guessed it, that's she and I ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 just be careful though. safe sex all the way! (i've watched way too much "16 and pregnant" lately i think). either way, remember that sometimes not all high school relationships last. be prepared to grow apart once you both start maturing more and finding yoru own paths. not to be debbie downer, but just letting you know of the possibilities. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Yeah, she'll be under-aged for just under a month after I turn 18. We'll just have to keep it on the DL. (I just posted my avatar. You guessed it, that's she and I ) you sound like you are in love! LOL I remember high school romances......Ahhh to be young again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 just be careful though. safe sex all the way! (i've watched way too much "16 and pregnant" lately i think). either way, remember that sometimes not all high school relationships last. be prepared to grow apart once you both start maturing more and finding yoru own paths. not to be debbie downer, but just letting you know of the possibilities. Well, we communicate very well, and we've discussed safe sex, so that's not an issue. It's all gravy, I've been told that several times. I understand that people change rapidly at our age. If we grow apart, I'll be crushed for a while. But I've got a lifetime ahead of me. So I'll heal up after a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
forever1130 Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 I don't think there's anything wrong with a 2 year age gap! When I was 16 and started dating my boyfriend he was 21, so I had to deal with some dirty looks every now and then from people who thought I (or he?) was crazy! but I'm pretty sure if he was only 18 when we started dating people would have had no problem with it and I think the same goes for 15 and 17. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 you sound like you are in love! LOL I remember high school romances......Ahhh to be young again. Lol thanks Yeah, we are in love. I sure hope it lasts. She really is a sweet girl... She's been out of town for ten days now, which is a real downer (she doesn't have a cell phone or internet access, so I haven't even been able to speak with her.) But she'll be back Monday! Wooh! Hahaha sorry, I know I'm just ranting. But these are the things that I think about a great majority of the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greensleeves Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Lol thanks Yeah, we are in love. I sure hope it lasts. She really is a sweet girl... She's been out of town for ten days now, which is a real downer (she doesn't have a cell phone or internet access, so I haven't even been able to speak with her.) But she'll be back Monday! Wooh! Hahaha sorry, I know I'm just ranting. But these are the things that I think about a great majority of the time. Ahhh....young love is so sweet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 Ahhh....young love is so sweet Hopefully we can keep it this way forever I'd live a very happy life if we could. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragunov-21 Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 The only reason that 15:17 would be a problem is differences in maturity causing you problems. That obviously isn't happening, so there shouldn't be any probs. And unless her parents don't like you, or have huge issues with their daughter being sexually intimate with you, I doubt they'd go to the cops for that month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avman Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 At your ages it's totally fine. You are both in high school and it's totally common for people to be dating in different grades. Even once you are 18 there are some states where that kind of age gap won't get you into any trouble (18 and 16 year olds) but I don't know about Nevada. Just be careful ok? Enjoy your time together and treat each other well! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 At your ages it's totally fine. You are both in high school and it's totally common for people to be dating in different grades. Even once you are 18 there are some states where that kind of age gap won't get you into any trouble (18 and 16 year olds) but I don't know about Nevada. Just be careful ok? Enjoy your time together and treat each other well! Thanks Yeah, I've looked at the laws. The legal age of consent in Nevada is 16, so we're safe. Also, thanks for doing your part as an administrator. I'm an administrator for the H2H security group forums, so I know what a pain in the butt it can be. This is a nice, well-developed forum you have here. Keep it up! *thumbs up* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avman Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 I'm glad you two found each other. You look like a cute couple from what I can see in your avatar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 I'm glad you two found each other. You look like a cute couple from what I can see in your avatar. Thanks, I appreciate it We really are great with each other. Most of the people we meet say "You two are perfect for each other!" or something similar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahandicap Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 Here's another good picture of us together image removed This one's one of my favorites... She's so cute image removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amorous Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Here's my take: I'm in a similar boat - My girlfriend and I are 2 school grades apart and almost 2 years age difference apart (im young for my grade). Keep in mind that you will need to make her friends your friends as well (or at least make a good effort to be social with her group) which could become awkward at school (it varies by school). I'm not saying you do this now, but don't just completely take her out of her current life/family/friends. Instead, become a part of those things. It's fine if you want to have her hang out with your "older" friends as well, but find a good balance that both of you are comfy with. I definitely hung out with my girlfriend's group of friends more than my own, which I am beginning to regret (a senior w/ sophomores was a little awkward, and sometimes the maturity gap bothered me especially with sophomore guys). I still love my GF very much, but I wish I had been more social to my fellow seniors. I almost felt out of place in my OWN grade; dont let this happen to you. Another point: Are you planning to go to a college far away/out of state? WHen i started dating my GF a year and a half ago (I was a HS Junior and I needed a prom date - she was such a cute freshman ), this was one of that last things on my mind. But now I'm leaving for college in a month. I live in LA, and am going to school in Northern California, so we'll be like 6 hours apart or an expensive plane ticket away from each other. I'm an absolute mess right now (and am actually going to be opening another thread asking for advice about this, but enough about me) over this. Are you going to be willing to do a long distance relationship down the line? Keep in mind, you'll probably be halfway through college when she won't have even started. You two might change etc (especially when/if you go off to college) Anyway, sorry to be such a downer, but this is what Im going through right now, and you're situation reminded me EXACTLY of how I was 1 year ago. Best of luck to you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyseybear Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 haha yah thats not bad... Im 17.. and my boyfriend is 22 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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