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Staying Faithful in a Long-Distance Relationship


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My boyfriend and I have been best friends for 6 years, and we've been together for 2 of those. About a month ago he left for the Air Force Academy and he's in his boot camp, so we're cut off from talking on the phone, internet, all we have are letters...I am madly in love with him and I see myself marrying him.

 

So since he's been gone, I've been trying to keep busy, at first I was DEVASTATED and depressed and just fell into a terrible state, but now I am doing well. I am missing him, but I am coping well.

 

I went to a friend's party the other night and met this guy named Alex. Turns out he's pretty good friends with one of my close friends so lately I've been going to a lot of the same hangouts as he has. I'm finding that I get giddy around him, like I like the attention from a guy and I'm flirty, just the whole ordeal when you first meet a guy you're interested in. And I HATEEE thinking that I feel this way, and I know this is probably just me wanting to fill his void with a cute guy. I don't like it! I only want my boyfriend to be on my mind. Like yesterday was so tempting to just cuddle with Alex, but I know it's because I miss my boyfriend. Thoughts from anyone who's kinda been through this? How can I stop from having these thoughts

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Avoid him and avoid getting dragged into the situation. As in, it might start out as friends, then get to the emotional affair stage and finally physical.

 

Do you think its because your bf is away? And you miss having someone around who cares? Or that your not happy wiht your guy and you want a new bf?

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I'm in a long-distance relationship with a girl from my homestate. We've only been together 7 months, but it's definitely rough. We're roughly 1,500 miles apart. And have only spent a month in a half total together, since we've been together.

I'm a very physical and emotional person, and it's trying at times, being I like to go out on the weekends, and have quite a few female friends, but drunk as I may be, there's a little person inside my head telling me to just go home, watch some porn, and go to sleep

 

How long is he gone for? If you don't want to cheat, it's obvious what you need to do, stop putting yourself in situations where this guy is around. Because there will always be the chance something happens, or you catch feelings. And if your bf is someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, it will do you no good hanging around this dude.

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Get rid of Alex.

 

And prevent yourself from getting that comfortable with any other potential male friends. Ask yourself if you would be meeting any new male friends if your bf was here. Probably not. So there is no need to now. Your boyfriend is probably not having the best time of his life, or meeting new girl friends, but instead missing you, home, his family, internet, phone, etc, to the upteenth degree. Trust me, it will make you and your relationship stronger knowing that you were sacrificing just like your man, during this tough time.

 

This is coming from an Air Force girlfriend who survived her mans 7 month tour in Iraq. If i can do it, you can too hun. Lean on your girlfriends and family!

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Get rid of Alex.

 

And prevent yourself from getting that comfortable with any other potential male friends. Ask yourself if you would be meeting any new male friends if your bf was here. Probably not. So there is no need to now. Your boyfriend is probably not having the best time of his life, or meeting new girl friends, but instead missing you, home, his family, internet, phone, etc, to the upteenth degree. Trust me, it will make you and your relationship stronger knowing that you were sacrificing just like your man, during this tough time.

 

This is coming from an Air Force girlfriend who survived her mans 7 month tour in Iraq. If i can do it, you can too hun. Lean on your girlfriends and family!

 

Could not agree more!

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ashley, agree with the other posters. don't be alone with alex, stay away as much as possible, and get your cuddling from a teddy bear or a puppy ask your bf to send you a shirt he wore so you can keep it under your pillow and smell his scent when you're missing him.

 

i know you are lacking physical contact, it's perfectly natural.

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