Knotty Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 Maybe this is a silly question but... I started that thread about how many dates before kissing, but how often do people kiss before they go on an official date? Like do guys ever kiss women before they ask them out? I'm thinking like when they are in a non-date situation, maybe just talking out in public, and they are getting along, maybe he will kiss her just to show her that he likes her "that way." Then he can ask her out or ask for her number after that. It seems like a bold move to me. What do people think of this? Rarely happens or fairly common? Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 When my first husband approached me, he put his arm around me... and about got elbowed right in the rib cage... but when I turned to look at him.. YOWZA!.. he was hot, so he got by with it. I wouldn't take the guy too seriously if he kissed me (or tried to) before he even asked me out. Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 With one of my exes, we met at a party, and ended up kissing that night. So yes, it does happen. I don't know about how common, that's the only time that's ever happened to me...but I can imagine it happens quite often! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 My first boyfriend and I were making out long before we went on a date. It was new year's. Shoot me. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 I think this happens quite a bit when two people are friends, and are making the transition from friendship to romance. If a man asked me for my number on the street and then tried to kiss me, he would probably get slapped. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 Oh.. I'm not saying I 've never kissed a guy before going on a date... but I've never had a successful relationship with a guy when it started out that way. Back in the day, I randomly made out with guys a few times.. only once did it lead to a dating relationship... and that was boring. Link to comment
ragdoll18 Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 Maybe this is a silly question but... I started that thread about how many dates before kissing, but how often do people kiss before they go on an official date? Like do guys ever kiss women before they ask them out? I'm thinking like when they are in a non-date situation, maybe just talking out in public, and they are getting along, maybe he will kiss her just to show her that he likes her "that way." Then he can ask her out or ask for her number after that. It seems like a bold move to me. What do people think of this? Rarely happens or fairly common? This is what happened with me and my ex. We were hanging out as friends when he left he kissed me, then called me up the next day to ask me out. I'm not sure if it happens a lot though. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 Oh.. I'm not saying I 've never kissed a guy before going on a date... but I've never had a successful relationship with a guy when it started out that way. Back in the day, I randomly made out with guys a few times.. only once did it lead to a dating relationship... and that was boring. What do you consider a successful relationship? We dated for about 6 months but the breakup was really rocky. We're friends again now but, at the time, he hurt me a lot. I don't know if that's success (because we did date) or a fail (because we broke up and it hurt me a lot). Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 I can't count the number of times I've made out with a girl before going out with her on a date or never even seeing her again. Granted none of them were cold approaches and we met thru friends or something like that. The last three girls I hooked up with I havn't take one on a date to this day. Maybe the times we've met up with groups count but not a one on one date. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 i've had sex with plenty of girls before a first date. so yes, kissing happens. Link to comment
COtuner Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 Maybe this is a silly question but... I started that thread about how many dates before kissing, but how often do people kiss before they go on an official date? Like do guys ever kiss women before they ask them out? I'm thinking like when they are in a non-date situation, maybe just talking out in public, and they are getting along, maybe he will kiss her just to show her that he likes her "that way." Then he can ask her out or ask for her number after that. It seems like a bold move to me. What do people think of this? Rarely happens or fairly common? I would punch the guy in the nose. Link to comment
ay0_x Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 Back in like freshman year, when a guy asked you to be his girlfriend before an actual date... yeah. It's not something I'd do now. Link to comment
Knotty Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Back in like freshman year, when a guy asked you to be his girlfriend before an actual date... yeah. It's not something I'd do now. Is that high school freshman or college freshman? But yeah, it seems like something younger people would do when "dating" doesn't literally mean going on dates with someone. I ask this question because I wonder if I come accross as boring compared to other guys because I'm not escalating things physically fast enough. Link to comment
ay0_x Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Is that high school freshman or college freshman? But yeah, it seems like something younger people would do when "dating" doesn't literally mean going on dates with someone. I ask this question because I wonder if I come accross as boring compared to other guys because I'm not escalating things physically fast enough. Oh, high school lol! Back when you're 14 and the way you prove love is holding hands all over the playground. And as for not escalating things fast enough.. You kiss on the 2nd or 3rd date, whichever feels right. Best not do it on the 1st. Link to comment
givinggirl Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 My last bf did that to me and we did date, but it should have been a red flag to me, not because he kissed me before asking me out, but because I had told him that we were just hanging out as friends and at the end of the night, he did that, which should have said to me...watch out because he doesn't listen to or respect your feelings, but I didn't think of it like that at the time. I, however, have thought about doing that because the guy I am currently into is very shy and when I ask him to hang out he always says that he is busy because he is too shy and nervous to be around me without his safety net of friends. I have thought of just kissing him and then seeing what that does. I think it all depends on the situation and the people involved. It could be bad, or it could be good. Link to comment
stella74 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 When I was younger, yes. My first serious, long-term boyfriend kissed me before asking me out and I was okay with it at that time because we both were shy. Now that I'm older, I would expect to be asked out on a date first. Link to comment
secretness87 Posted July 12, 2009 Share Posted July 12, 2009 I guess it happened to me twice. The first time, we met at a party..made out, and then we went on our first date. After the date, we went back to his place and made out again lol. The second time, I met the guy at the club.. danced and made out. Yeah it happens. Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 12, 2009 Share Posted July 12, 2009 I've never done that. Link to comment
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