gotDNS1607306448 Posted March 2, 2003 Posted March 2, 2003 Hey, back again for help. I came here for help before in being closer with my girlfriend. We've been going out since Valentines Day (16 days ago) and we're getting a lot closer. I always hug her and put my arm around her, especially at movies and stuff. I haven't kissed her yet though. I had my first kiss over the summer (with my now ex-g/f) in our spa by the pool....incredible, and it was a french, and she said i was a good kisser and everything. (She broke up...emotional stuff....long story)....so it's not like im new to kissing. The thing was, my ex had initiated that kiss. I used to be a shy person, and I;m actually pretty popular now at school and stuff, so I'm moving up in the last few years, but I still always seem to get the guts for things just a little too late. I was over Christine's (my girlfriend) house yesterday and we watched the movie Changing Lanes. We sat on the couch and I had my arm around her the whole time and everything, but I didin't kiss her. I really want to kiss her, but I didn't want to interrupt the movie (she had never seen it before)...I think I always just find an excuse, but really, I didn't want to interrupt. Also, after the movie we just sat on the couch talking for a few minuets. She had gone upstairs for a minute after the movie and when she came back down, being tired, she layed against the arm of the couch, so we we're a little bit apart. Say I was in that poisition now, how would I move in for a passionate kiss without being akward and moving in all...akwardly? Any suggestions, thanks!
cookies Posted March 2, 2003 Posted March 2, 2003 awww...thas so romantic...hehe.... well, humm...i think that havin a little fun, like tickling or play wrestling is always a prelude to a kiss...at least, i would enjoy my self by playi fighting (not roughly) until both kinda outta breath, tired and lying on the floor,...and the moment will just arise where u look into each others eyes and long to kiss one another... In ur situation here,...im sure there was a moment of silence or two...where u both just looked into each other´s eyes...thas a moment to be taken advantage of...smile dreamingly at her..and hold out ur hands as if u want her to come "here" for a hugg...(since u already been hugging, that should be the easy part). Caress her, and maybe gentlly lift her chin, brush her hair back from her face, smile and as u both start breathing rhymatically in unison...and just softly kiss her lips...and just go with the flow from there... if she was layin back on the arm of the couch...sounds like something id do, if was dyin to be kissed...but if i spend this kind of time with sumone, and get close enough to hugg like this...i would definitely desire a kiss... just patiently waiting 4 the moment... cookies
gotDNS1607306448 Posted March 2, 2003 Author Posted March 2, 2003 She was over my house today too, but my mom was in the basement the whole time we were down there watching the movie....GRRRR. I wish I could get her out of there.... Ok, so say when she was leaning back on the arm of the couch, wouldn't it have been, since she was stretched out, to kinda either climb on top of her or squeeze next to her (both would have been uncomfortable) and it'd be unnatural, akward, and unflowing Gr, maybe I'm just always finding some excuse
JohnDoe Posted March 3, 2003 Posted March 3, 2003 Hey guy, just let it come naturally, just as cookies advised you to do. Make your move after a few seconds if staring right into her eyes, with her looking into yours. It will make the kiss all the more meaningful and passionate. The whole thing with your mom can't really be avoided. To do that and have it mean so much to both of you definitely requires the absense of your mom. Another approach is to walk her home, or if you drive, to walk her to her door, and then make your move sometime shortly after you say goodbye. And the last approach, though this relies more on shock factor, is to, when looking into her eyes, ask her "so when we gonna kiss". Just a word of caution, you must use this with a big smirk on your face (not a grin as such, but a smirk) and say it rather coyly or playfully. Best of luck to you.
jujigatame Posted March 3, 2003 Posted March 3, 2003 Ooh! This is a fun one! Flex those romantic muscles, big guy, because this is where the fun begins! Order of operations as pertaining to the kiss is as follows: 1. Get close. Be spontaneous about it, but if your lady communicates to you that she doesn't want you in her personal space like that so soon, just say okay and back off. That's not likely, though. All girls love to snuggle. An alternative to getting close physically is getting close emotionally, like during a deep conversation when you're face-to-face but not touching. 2. Eye contact. Flow into it from conversation, or subtly lift her chin so she looks into your eyes. Keep your eyes locked until that "awkward silence" feeling just starts to come up. Then it's time for the... 3. Final approach. Once you're past the event horizon, there's no turning back. Part your lips a tiny bit, close your eyes, and move in. Then you just go with the flow! Of course, you should do whatever feels right to you, but these seem to me like common-sense steps in a natural order. Good luck and happy smooching!
gotDNS1607306448 Posted March 4, 2003 Author Posted March 4, 2003 Thanks a lot for all your help, all of you. Much appriciated! Reguards, Brian
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