Lost Virginity but not what I expected

[rockdude82]

Hi I've recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend and its not gone quite as I planned.. I had never been touched or had any experience before I met her we've been together just over a month and its going well.. until we have sex being a virgin I kind of expected to ejaculate straight away but this did not happen, infact I couldn't ejaculate at all. we were having sex for about 20 30 minutes then she told me she had cum but I hadn't, she told me to carry on until I had finished but still nothing.. in the end I had to give up.. completely freaked out on what might be wrong with me...

 

When I'm on my own masturabting I never have a problem but when I was inside her I just felt I couldn't feel much happening like friction or anything I wore a comdom she thinks that might be the reason.. but being a virgin not to ejaculate inside her something must be wrong with me..

 

She has noticed when I'm in her company that I always very excited down below I was wondering if that had something to do with it that I might be tireing myself out or something.. I'm just freaking out about it.

[SapphireNoir10]

That happened to me any my guy as I was his first, It took time and patience for him to get used to intercourse, its all about getting comfrotable and learning to relax and enjoy it.

[Dragunov-21]

I know it doesn't seem it, but it really is better than the alternative problem lol...

 

I think it might be like Blue said.

[agent1607307371]

How tight do you hold yourself when you masturbate?

[rockdude82]

Quite tight but not so tight that it hurts or anything

[agent1607307371]

Quite tight but not so tight that it hurts or anything

 

Even so. You need to either refrain from masturbating, or be much looser with your grip. Vibrators don't hurt, but they still desensitise your body to "normal" sex.

 

See if that makes a difference.

[Rabican]

1. you were probably nervous, or at least not very calm... which can do all sorts of things to your 'abilities' some good, some bad.

 

2. The condom can definitely make it harder to feel stuff, which can make it harder to get off. Invest in some super sensitive condoms by trojan... they come in a purple box. Those are the best ive found.

 

3. Dont masterbate before you have sex.. maybe even a day or two before just so that the tank is more full.. so to speak.

[Godless_Heathen]

I've never been able to reach climax wearing a condom. Including my very first sexual experience. By mutual consent, we switched to pull-out, and I had no trouble at all. Which is not what I recommend - it's not safe, and we switched to the pill immediately.

 

You know the phrase "no glove, no love?" I'll abstain rather than using a condom, because it's not just a matter of feeling "less," it's a matter of not feeling anything at all. I can only assume that most men are just much more sensitive than I am.

[SapphireNoir10]

Ultra thin condoms are the best bet, and I dont reccoment just putting her on the pill cos that doesnt protect against STI's so until your both tested I wouldnt try that route.

[alcide]

That happened to me any my guy as I was his first, It took time and patience for him to get used to intercourse, its all about getting comfrotable and learning to relax and enjoy it.

 

well said, i think you should just relax.

[HellFrost666]

No one's first time is ever what they expected. It was probably more nerves then anything that held you back. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

[Unknown1607307972]

This happened to my ex (we were eachother's firsts). Performance anxiety probably.

[Sparkley]

Same my first time, he came so quickly, about two seconds after I took my tights off. Took him a while before he mastered it and he kept slipping out, many is the time he did that and came on the sheets.

[In the Dark]

Don't worry about it.

I was the same.

I couldn't go, I was wearing a condom too.

Lack of sensitivity, not knowing what to expect.

New sensation, awkwardness.

Wondering what she was thinking during that time.

 

The first time isn't all it's cracked up to be.

What makes losing your virginity special is the fact it is your first time.

[lonely fish]

I masturbated a lot till the point that I had to hold really tight to cum. When I did it for the first time, I had the exact same issue. When I sticked my penis into her vagina I really felt nothing. I felt nothing when I thrust forth and back that it was only the act of sex itself preventing me from falling asleep.

 

Before my first time, I felt sex is awesome and mysterious. When I finally did it, I was really disappointed. I feel the real sex is only good during the buildup and game and all. When you are riding the girl, EVERY GIRL, EVEN IF SHE IS HOTTEST GIRL, IS THE SAME. this kinda killed women's mystery to me and now I really feel masturbation actually feels better.

 

Back to my first time, the girl clearly knew i was inexperienced during the foreplay becoz i was shy. However, when she laid down, the familiar picture of naked woman I got from porn immediately came to my mind, and I did her like a pro (no joke). But I couldnt cum and finally she had to jack me off and even so, I had to try real hard to cum.

 

And after that she thought I was good which I was not. Thats my weird first time.

[vanessa23]

Try not to worry about it too much, I think you were nervous because it was your first time. Try to relax before doing it. Think of it this way...the point of sex between two people is not to cum but to enjoy yourself and feel connected to the person you're with. Before you know it you will cum, you just have to get used to it. Trust me, there is nothing wrong with you, it's totally normal for that to happen sometimes.