Araziel Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 So my boyfriend and I haven't exactly had the perfect sex life. I've been getting constant yeast infections and pain from endometriosis during sex (both of which are not the issue here, seeing the doctor for this already, no it's not an STD lol). So this has obviously screwed up our sex life to begin with. On top of that, we both are currently living with parents, which makes sex awkward at times. Anyway the biggest problem for me is that my boyfriend hasn't been able to....finish recently. It's made me feel like there's something wrong with me. But at the same time, we also use non lubricated condoms and buy a different kind of lube to keep me from getting yeast infections. These condoms seem a little thicker, and I wonder if that's part of the problem. Also because of our sporadic and sometimes inactive sex life he'll often masturbate instead. Which he had done earlier that day and has caused similar problems in the past, but not always. He says its the lube that feels weird, or the condom that keeps him from feeling much. We tried for nearly an hour last night, sometimes he'd get close and then it would start hurting me. It's so frustrating for both of us, but it's only me who gets upset about it. I worry, is it me? I'm trying as hard as I can to work with these problems and I'm constantly going to the doctor. I just worry about losing him because of this, but he swears it won't happen. I think the most frustrating part is that our sex life was great before I started having all these problems Link to comment
SilverMonkey Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Me and my girlfriend had the same problem in the start of our relationship. I had a hard time getting off when we used condoms. I found that it was because i needed to "learn" how to. But thick condoms can be quite a challenge for the male.. Link to comment
SilverMonkey Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 It is most probably not you. If he seems happy but just can't get off, try doing something else like oral before intercourse Link to comment
KG Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Condoms take a while to get used to, they deaden the nerves. I hated them, but eventually was able to finish. Link to comment
SamiJayne Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 My partner has trouble coming with a condom on. He never used too, until we started using other forms of birth control, or being pregnant already =P So when we do have to go back to condoms, theres always that problem. I always find that they rub aswell. So I am always sore afterwards. =( Link to comment
Speranza Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 If you've got endo, perhaps he has become frightened of adding to the pain... There are lots of sites where you can get support from other endo sufferers, perhaps you've found them already? I think the key to this will turn out to be patience, and finding other ways to make him finish. Link to comment
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