absolutley Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Does anyone find that texting someone your dating annoying. I am just asking because i get annoyed with being text all the time, I would rather a person just dial my number and talk to me. Texts are okay if your busy and just want to send the other person a quick little message, but to only communicate through texting imbetween the time you see eacother. I only ask because I am not a very technical person and was just wondering if this is a commomn thing, to text to have a conversation, rather then to talk on the phone. Link to comment
meteorstrike Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 My phone doesn't text so i have to call her all the time. TOo bad she doesn't like me. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Does anyone find that texting someone your dating annoying. I am just asking because i get annoyed with being text all the time, I would rather a person just dial my number and talk to me. Texts are okay if your busy and just want to send the other person a quick little message, but to only communicate through texting imbetween the time you see eacother. I only ask because I am not a very technical person and was just wondering if this is a commomn thing, to text to have a conversation, rather then to talk on the phone. Trust me, Im technical and I hate it. It's just so less impersonal. My g/f currently does this, it's quiteeee annoying. Unless of course you cant talk on the phone, then its okay (e.g. job, etc) Link to comment
COtuner Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 My last relationship was mostly via email because we couldn't talk during the day. And I email or IM my coworkers throughout the day, mainly so no one else hears our conversations or so we can keep a conversation running slowly all day long while we are busy. I don't "text", myself, although my Blackberry gets most of the email duty. My last BF ONLY emailing me for the last 2 years seriously PO'd me (and he was 52 years old) - it was a factor in our relationship ending. Being part of the lack of intimacy, lack of being there in person, and other issues he had Link to comment
retired1 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Welcome to the 21st century, where the cell phone has taken the place of letter writing, phone calls and face to face conversations. You have to wonder how relationships ever get off the ground, huh? I do agree that text messaging can go overboard, but it is handy. Unfortunately, some take it to the extreme. I think many use their phone as an extension of their PC, especially since some phones have full keyboards and are easier to text with. Me, I still have a plain ol' cell phone, so texting tends to be a bit more tedious. Link to comment
guitargirl1607308056 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I don't mind some texting here and there (have a good day, see you tonight, etc.), but using text as a primary form of communication is beyond annoying. Up until a few days ago I was seeing a guy who did nothing but text me (hey, what are you doing right now, come meet me for a drink). At one point I told him that if he couldn't be bothered to actually lift his phone to his ear, I couldn't be bothered getting into my car to come and see him. I agree with you... when it comes to dating, chronic texting is just lazy. Link to comment
ragdoll18 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Texting doesn't bother me at all but I hate talking on the phone, I do it 8 hours a day at work, and the last thing I want to do outside of work is talk on the phone. But I never have serious conversations over text, for that I will talk on the phone or wait till we're in person. Me and the guy that I'm dating we usually text each other throughout the day, but it's usually just silly jokes or pictures, we leave conversation for when we're together in person, and we make plans for the next time we're going to go out while we're together. I think as long as you keep texting away from the serious conversations, and understand that you can't always determine tone and not let a text get you all worked up, then it's fine. Link to comment
savagegirl Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Yeah it would bother me if all the guy ever did was text me. My new bf doesn't text very often, he calls instead and it's so much nicer. Sometimes he will text and it's always something sweet, so when I DO get a text, I like it Link to comment
glegend Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I hate text messages. Mostly, because there isn't enough space to write everything I need to so I end up having to send multiple messages. Plus, I have unlimited incomming and outgoing minutes so its cheaper for me to call someone and tell them what I need to rather then to text them; as well as, have them call me and tell me what they want. However, this month I have abused the text messages big time. I have 250 messages free and now I'm up at 729 messages. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Texting, IMing, and email are all bad for beginning relationships. You never create that bond that face-to-face creates and you miss out on learning body language and tone. So many things can be easily misinterpreted if you don't know them well enough. Even then, texting is something you do when you can't talk. It's a last resort. "I'm with my parents, call you later" or "The meeting is running a little late"; In those situations you can't call. Link to comment
savagegirl Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Texting, IMing, and email are all bad for beginning relationships. You never create that bond that face-to-face creates and you miss out on learning body language and tone. So many things can be easily misinterpreted if you don't know them well enough. Even then, texting is something you do when you can't talk. It's a last resort. "I'm with my parents, call you later" or "The meeting is running a little late"; In those situations you can't call. Exactly. definitely something you do when you can't talk. Otherwise pick up the phone, it's so much nicer to hear the person's voice. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I hate texting. So annoying. I only do it if I don't have much to say or if I'm at work. I will tell a guy flat out not to make a habit of texting me. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 some people like it some don't. it's easier for me to do when i'm busy. Link to comment
taintedlove Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I really like texting as it makes me feel connected when I can't be on the phone (ie. when I'm in class or work all day). When I'm home and doing chores/hmwk, I also prefer texting as again you are communicating but you can get your other stuff done too - form of multi-tasking. But it's true that I don't have serious or long conversations that way - just little tidbits on what's going on, etc... When a longer conversation is to be had, and I actually have time - then it's over a phone call. Though I find phone calls can be tiring too. Link to comment
noneStar Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I hate the phone! I like to text because it's so impersonal and efficient. lol This sounds awful, but I like prefer these impersonal mediums of communication like email and IMing because I don't have to keep my full attention on the conversation and can do other things. From a "dating" perspective, it makes sense why a lot of people (especially women) would not like it. I rarely phoned my ex-gf (less than once a week). We IMed a lot and all along I thought it was okay, eventually when she dumped she revealed that it wasn't and that she hated when I typed "lol, k"...I just dont like "disturbing" people with phone calls, because I feel like I'm disturbed by them? lessons in what not to do... Link to comment
Horigan Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Something I'm surprised about, some people just don't like talking on the phone. Period, for any reason. It makes them uncomfortable. Both me and my gf are like that, so we never talked on the phone at all just IM'ed when we weren't near each other up until she left town for the summer. Now we talk on the phone a bit, but we also text a lot. We spend more hours texting than we do talking, and we both like it that way. Link to comment
o_hopeless_o Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 i had a ex like that before. yeah didnt cut it. hah Link to comment
volpe Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 i don't like texting, when i date someone new i just tell them that now... this one guy kept blowing my phone up with "bulk texts". "Hi you all, I'm at ****, if you want to hang out come find me..." Finally I just sent him a text to stop with the bulk texts!!!! Link to comment
volpe Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I rarely phoned my ex-gf (less than once a week). We IMed a lot and all along I thought it was okay, eventually when she dumped she revealed that it wasn't and that she hated when I typed "lol, k"...I just dont like "disturbing" people with phone calls, because I feel like I'm disturbed by them? lessons in what not to do... i think it's weak, she should have told you BEFORE the break up!, sounds like the communication was not good! Link to comment
fatcat1999 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I've gone out with two guys who only txt or emails, trust me on this, he's not into you or he's other issues. if a guy is interested and doesn't have certain "weird traits" or mentality, he'll call. Link to comment
cl76 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 They don't call it Short Message Service for nothing... Link to comment
noneStar Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 i think it's weak, she should have told you BEFORE the break up!, sounds like the communication was not good! lol, yeah but i guess that's due to different expectations w/r/t communication. i mean, for me it's okay to not to talk everyday or talk mainly using informal mediums of communication. i like being "distant" like that. is that evidence that i wasn't that into her? she thought so and from what i'm told, so do most women.. i have been trying to change but i think it's a template from my home environment. Link to comment
cutiepie07 Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 I don't mind texting if you want to say something quickly, but for a conversation it's annoying, and I get frustrated going back and forth, when it's something that could be said on the phone in like five minutes. It's fine for like 'hope your day is going well' or something to confirm plans, like 'let's meet at 5?'. Texting seems to be common early on in the dating stages when you are not sure if you should be talking on the phone. I don't particularly enjoy talking on the phone for long periods of time, but I would rather talk on the phone to catch up for a few minutes instead of texting back and forth. Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 i only txt when either I'm busy with something, or if it doesn't require an answer right away. mostly the latter though. otherwise i call. I can't stand people that have entire conversations thru texting and don't pick up the phone. Link to comment
bluesky600 Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 I hate text messages. Mostly, because there isn't enough space to write everything I need to so I end up having to send multiple messages. Plus, I have unlimited incomming and outgoing minutes so its cheaper for me to call someone and tell them what I need to rather then to text them; as well as, have them call me and tell me what they want. However, this month I have abused the text messages big time. I have 250 messages free and now I'm up at 729 messages. ouch! at 0.15c per msg that's an extra $71.85 on your bill...? Link to comment
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