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Does anyone have any advice on how to block porn on Craigslist? My husband has a little porn problem (a big porn problem) and so is computer access is through a parental controls account (obviously with his agreement), plus I have a computer monitoring program where I can see everything he does (keystrokes plus websites visited). I don't think he realizes the full extent of the computer monitoring program.

 

We both enjoy having the internet to surf and email, and look at the news, but the problem is that he can't stay away from porn. After I set up the parental controls, he would search for hours for any kind of sexually explicit pictures on flikr, and when I asked him about it, he stopped for a while. Now he looks at all kinds of porn on craigslist. it's driving me bananas.

 

I would hate to have to ask him to give up all computer privileges, but it just doesn't stop. Any ideas?

 

 

P.S. I don't buy the "all guys look at porn so what's the big deal" argument. it's destructive and disgusting.

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You may wish to try link removed. It's very easy to set up, very secure and I highly recommend it. I've used it in the past with my ex fiance's teenager.

 

One of the great things about the software is it barks whenever the user attempts to access a blocked site. **GRIN**

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Blocking it only treats a symptom- but what about the bigger problem?

 

If the 2 of you address the core problem I think you'll be far better off.

 

Right now it's just a game of cat and mouse- not a healthy way to continue a marriage.

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Maybe the two of you need to talk about why he watches porn, and your insecurity.

 

Personally I view porn every other day on the internet, relationship or not. Every girlfriend I have ever had has been fine with this because ive been honest about this, and let them know it has nothing to do with them not pleasing me or anything like that.

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Guys watch porn. I'm female and I watch porn.

 

Is it so much that he's addicted or is it that you have a problem with it?

 

I'd rather my guy watched porn rather than cheat on me but that doesn't give him an excuse even if you're uncomfortable with it.

 

I agree with the above poster, I think you need to get him some help and deal with whats really going on with him. Blocking it doesnt seem to be helping because he still does it.

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I know, it's ridiculous, it's like I'm his mother. It's not only that I don't like porn, but he's completely addicted to it. He'll stay up all night and when he's supposed to be watching our child, he is looking at porn. He knows he has a problem and we need to go to counseling about it. But in the meantime, the internet is a wasteland, and for someone with an addiction problem it's not very smart to put all that temptation readily available. I agree that if he gets real help then it would be less of a problem, but I don't know when that's going to happen.

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He'll stay up all night and when he's supposed to be watching our child, he is looking at porn.

 

If that is the case, I too would advise disconnecting the internet until there is an intervention-

 

Children shouldn't have to live in those circumstances.

 

A good friend of mine is getting a divorce for the same reason (porn addiction)- her husband turned down real sex with her and also watched porn the whole time he was supposedly caring for their baby accodring to the computer records.

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Maybe the two of you need to talk about why he watches porn, and your insecurity.

 

Is it so much that he's addicted or is it that you have a problem with it?

 

Obviously this is about a man's addiction and not insecurity.

 

...To anyone who proudly loves to declare that she watches/approves of porn, I only wonder what tune they would sing after being married to a porn addict.

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If that is the case, I too would advise disconnecting the internet until there is an intervention-

 

Children shouldn't have to live in those circumstances.

 

A good friend of mine is getting a divorce for the same reason (porn addiction)- her husband turned down real sex with her and also watched porn the whole time he was supposedly caring for their baby accodring to the computer records.

 

Yeah, a few years ago when it was really bad, he didn't want to have sex with me. And now, every time I catch him looking at it, it makes me completely lose respect for him. Porn is bad news, no doubt about it.

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It's not the porn itself that is the problem, it's his addiction. Porn/masturbation addiction can be extremely destructive to a relationship but more importantly to him and his life. He needs treatment. I agree with the other poster who said that you are trying to deal with the symptoms rather than treat the problem.

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I actually just had a counseling session today with him. The assessment by the counselor is that we have a "competitive" relationship (whatever that means) and that we're not cooperating. He also said that his assessment is that my husband does not want to stop looking at porn.

 

So where do I go from here? I don't have a clue. I guess I thought my husband wanted to stop and so I'd "help" him by putting some restrictions on the computer. Obviously if he searches for hours on end for pictures which can get through the filter, then he doesn't want to stop. Hurray for my finally stating the obvious.

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