Am I too old?

[wowwow]

I met a guy last night and we exchanged cards and plan to go out soon. I found out he is just 30 years old. My cut off is 35.

 

Is a 44 year old woman to old to go out with a 30 year old man?

[waveseer]

It's completely dependent on the particular man and woman in question.

[urbanmiller]

i think it has more to do with what both people are looking for rather than what their ages are.

 

for example, if a 44 year old woman is looking to meet someone to settle down with, she shouldn't date a 30 year old that is only looking for a short fling. however, she could date a different 30 year old guy if that guy is also looking to settle down.

 

i'd say figure out what it is that you're looking for, give it a shot, and see if this guy is on the same page as you.

[MD Geist]

I've seen women as young as myself date guys who in there mid to late 40's.

 

Most people don't see a problem with I don't see a problem with a very young guy dating an older woman than himself.

[Pressfit]

See, you should have asked for his age before you exchanged info. You defeated your own set of rules. How's that for self-deception.

 

Now go out and have a good time!!

[savignon]

Why don't you go out with him and see how it goes?? It would be shame to pass on a great guy ...don't you know how hard it is to find a great guy??

[lavenderdove]

Depends on what you're looking for... if you're looking for a permanent mate, if he is someone who wants children in the future, then obviously he will eventually leave.

 

But if you want a fun fling, then i'd say go ahead. But keep in mind i've seen lots of older women on this board who fall for guys 15 years younger then are surprised/upset/devastated when he breaks up because they were far more serious about the relationship than the guy was. You're at different life stages, where you're middle aged, and he's entering the prime single and/or child rearing years, so there may be a mismatch related to that.

 

But if he doesn't want kids, or you don't want something serious, then go for it.

[lady00]

Does he have an idea of how old you are?

[pinkrobot]

I agree that it just depends on what you're both wanting out of the relationship.

 

My aunt (48, I believe) has been dating a 25-year-old for a couple of years now, and they're perfectly happy together. Kind of confuses me (I mean, she's got kids who are adults), but if they're happy, more power to them I suppose!

[sandrawg]

I'm 42, dating a guy who's 25. Why limit yourself based on age, assuming you have many other things in common? You probably wouldn't want someone discriminating against you for being older; don't not give a guy a chance just cuz he's younger than what you usually go for.

[1WayTicket2Norway]

Age is nothing but a number. no one is ever too old to find love

[yeawutever]

Depends on the person. I do mind age as I would always want the guy to either be my age or close to it.