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I don't know if I should change the situation at work or change my thinking


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I've been working at my current job for a year and a half.

When I'd been there 7 months is when my anxiety came back.

 

We go out to eat at restaurants EVERY day for lunch. At first I was bothered by the money I'd be spending as well as the possibility of gaining weight (which thankfully that doesn't seem to be happening from my choices) I spend between $160 and $200 a month on food at work because of this.

 

Like I said, my anxiety came back 7 months in, after I got sick.

 

I feel like going out to lunch takes a certain amount of effort from me, having to all lets get up, lets go -walk- to the restaurant, now let's -wait-. But that's not exactly all there is to it.. I mean, I'm with these people ALL day, then have to go with them to lunch, am I wrong to feel like I want a break alone?

 

We're a close knit group, it might be weird for me to not go out with them all the time, and I wonder if it would -hurt- me to not go out to lunch with them because I wonder if too big a part of me is avoiding it due to anxiety. I do get genuinely aggravated that I'm asked about lunch in the early morning and that it is such a BIG DEAL. I think they make it into a big deal and my mind translates it into an even bigger deal and in a bad way.

 

I can't tell if I'm just aggravated at their excitement over food or if it's entirely my anxiety. I know that it's -important- to change the way you think/approach things instead of avoiding things. I suppose its always bothered me, but I'm just not sure what to do!

 

Like it takes 30 minutes for us all to decide where to eat and some people getting aggravated over nobody deciding, and then them asking ALL morning long "what do you want to have for lunch" and then just all the effort into it really bugs me... and with the anxiety it makes it worse when things seem like such a big deal.

What can I do to change how I think about it or what else can I do? Maybe it's not that big of a deal...?

 

I just wanted to add I feel like my explaining sounds so redundant but I wanted to keep all details in, not sure how to situate it best haha

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Going out for lunch all the time at work is simply a waste of money and time.

 

I would find going through that rigmoroll every day a pain the butt.

 

Just start bringing in your own food for lunch and then maybe go once or twice a week with the group.

 

No big deal, no need to explain to colleagues.

Funny thing is, if you start doing it, I can almost gurantee a few of the others will too

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Going out for lunch all the time at work is simply a waste of money and time.

 

I would find going through that rigmoroll every day a pain the butt.

 

Just start bringing in your own food for lunch and then maybe go once or twice a week with the group.

 

No big deal, no need to explain to colleagues.

Funny thing is, if you start doing it, I can almost gurantee a few of the others will too

 

took the words right out of my mouth!!! i'd start bringing in a lunch to work, and go out with the coworkers on fridays. just so they don't think you are shunning them or something. just tell them you are watching your waistline and your pocketbook when you pull out your sandwich and carrots.

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I agree with the above, but also want to note that being away from where you work when you can is also important. Staying in the work environment all day when you don't have to isn't the best approach.

 

Just going a walk around after lunch can help clear your head.

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thank you for the responses!

This morning I decided I'll go home for lunch and bring food other days. I feel like I am free, I know that might sound weird. I feel like deciding not to reminded me I don't have to.

I wouldn't mind saving $10 today you know? I just said I probably will go home when someone asked what I wanted for lunch. I feel guilty!!! Why should I feel guilty!!

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Just go out to eat with them one or twice a week (on the same set days so they don't ask you "when" all the time).

Though I'm wondering if you will really be hearing less gossip about the restaurant since you are still working with them closely.

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  • 2 weeks later...

Thanks for the advice!

 

For the past 2 weeks I have been going home for lunch. 2 weeks ago I went with them twice and this past week I went with them once.

 

I saved so much and it broke up my day so much better.

 

I feel bad because they always badger me if I'm going or not! They make it seem like I am only doing this a couple times, but that's not true... I want to continue doing this for as long as I feel like.

 

I feel bad but I keep telling myself I shouldn't and I should do what's best for me.

That's right isn't it? I'm not being rude right...?

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i would just say that you are saving up for a new house/car/trip whatever and that brown bagging it saves you $50 a week, $200 a month, $2400 a year, that you can put towards your bigger purchases. that's just me though. obviously, you're young, just starting out, and it makes more sense to save money.

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Yeah that's true. I will definitely say that. I only said simply saving money but they like to put me in a position!

I really would rather go home for lunch every day... I said I'd go out with them once a week, I feel like I would rather go a couple times a month instead, maybe I will try that out. Because I have saved SO MUCH money already and I'm so glad I started doing this! But what makes it hard to go even once a week still is that I am so sick of restaurant food and going there and waiting and its just so annoying... I don't know if that is a good enough reason though.

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