Asked my mom to brunch

[hers]

I'm going home to FL this weekend and next weekend to visit. I decided to ask my mom to brunch on Sunday. We have been texting back and forth a little bit here and there but still not talking on the phone. After her DUI a couple weeks ago, I had a setback but got through it quickly with a lot of praying, talking to my sponsor, and going to Al-Anon meetings. I sent her a mother's day gift for the first time in like 4 years. Asking her to brunch is a huge deal for me.

 

I'm nervous. I don't need to be nervous, but I am. I'm not nervous about anything she will do, but I'm nervous about what I will do. I want to treat her with compassion. I don't want to hear her drama of the day or how she's been wronged by person XYZ. I'm not sure how to establish that boundary but I'll try. I guess I'm not in too much of a state of compassion right now if I'm trying to predict our conversation.

 

I'm going to an open AA meeting tomorrow. My sponsor thinks, for me to get through Step One fully and move on to Step Two easily, I should go to at least one open AA meeting a week on top of my normal Al-Anon meetings. I've only ever been to one, but I know a lot of people in the AA program (they come to my program too). I'm not sure what to expect. The last one I went to, I cried the whole time. That was back in August.

 

Just looking for some words of wisdom...thanks.

[jenny_mcs]

 

I'm nervous. I don't need to be nervous, but I am. I'm not nervous about anything she will do, but I'm nervous about what I will do. I want to treat her with compassion. I don't want to hear her drama of the day or how she's been wronged by person XYZ. I'm not sure how to establish that boundary but I'll try. I guess I'm not in too much of a state of compassion right now if I'm trying to predict our conversation.

 

 

Good for you. I would say something casually to her- like "I hope our brunch goes well. I'd really like to keep things positive during our time together."

 

If during brunch she starts some rant about someone who did her wrong, maybe say something like "I don't think I'm the best person to hear this. Let's try to keep things positive."

[hers]

Good for you. I would say something casually to her- like "I hope our brunch goes well. I'd really like to keep things positive during our time together."

 

If during brunch she starts some rant about someone who did her wrong, maybe say something like "I don't think I'm the best person to hear this. Let's try to keep things positive."

 

Thank you. That's definitely a good thing for me to say.