My gameplan for asking her out. Good or Bad?

[glegend]

So I've been doing some thinking about how I'm going to ask the girl from my work out. Everyone tells me that I shouldn't just jump in and ask, now with the whole camping trip I dont want to ask right away because what if she says no then the trip might be kinda awkward.

 

So I've come up with a game plan to ask her out. Next Thursday we're going bowling; May 28. Then I figure about 2 weeks later we go and see a movie maybe Angels & Demons, if I havn't gone and seen it. I was supposed to go and see it today with one of my friends but they bailed on me. However, my friend asks to go and see it again then I'll bring her along. Then we go on our camping trip and then sometime after the trip I ask her out.

[ghost69]

don't plan things like that out. if it feels right next time you talk to her or see her do it. don't ask her to be your gf, just ask her for a date.

[Ruede]

Sounds great! Best of luck!

[Ruede]

...true enough, to ghost69. Asking her out on a date isn't asking her to be your girlfriend. But eh... if you don't want potential awkwardness, I can understand waiting for after the trip. Up to you. Just my two cents.

[ghost69]

well, pretty much the whole camping thing was to maybe get her alone anyways right? do it beforehand. is the camping trip that big of a deal to you? you can still go to it after as a coworker i'm sure and nothing would be awkward. asking her out to dinner shouldn't be that big of a deal. and at the end say you should do it again sometime.

 

i'd do it. you know why? ima sound jerky for this, but even if she said no, she will probably be a single girl on the camping trip leaving it open to you when there are other couples around. ka-ching.

[glegend]

But eh... if you don't want potential awkwardness, I can understand waiting for after the trip.

 

Thats why I think I should ask her out after the trip.

 

You see I was going to ask her after we went bowling. But we were so busy that bowling got delayed and we didn`t even get a chance to talk about picking a day for bowling. But she beat me to it by asking me to go camping. before we could go bowling and I could ask her out for real.

[JenniferSNJ]

Ask her out while you're camping. I'd imagine there would be lots of good times to bring it up since you're kind of isolated.

[glegend]

well, pretty much the whole camping thing was to maybe get her alone anyways right? do it beforehand. is the camping trip that big of a deal to you? you can still go to it after as a coworker i'm sure and nothing would be awkward. asking her out to dinner shouldn't be that big of a deal. and at the end say you should do it again sometime.

 

i'd do it. you know why? ima sound jerky for this, but even if she said no, she will probably be a single girl on the camping trip leaving it open to you when there are other couples around. ka-ching.

 

Well she asked me to go camping. Everyone at work, at least in my department, knows that I like her and they say she likes me. So this is why I figure I got invited. But the whole camping trip is being planned by one of the girls in my department, her and her boyfriend are going camping. So that girl gave the girl I like the invite. I'm not sure if the other girl had the idea to invite me as well or if it was 100% the girl that I like. But I know the other girl in my department every now and then tries to get me and the girl I like alone to work together.

 

The camping trip is somewhat of a deal to me. I'd love to go. I've never gone, I'm 50/50 on the topic of camping. But I don't socialize much anymore, and any opportunity I get I like to take it. I'm not the type of the guy that usually gets invited to parties, my ex used to be the one that would get us the invite. So now that I got the invite I like to take it. So I guess it is a big deal in a way.

 

Your right about her being a single girl on the camping trip. Becasue there is only going to be one or two other couples there. If my buddie gets the weekend off he and his girl will be the second couple.

 

Ask her out while you're camping. I'd imagine there would be lots of good times to bring it up since you're kind of isolated.

 

Thats one possibility. I've thought of that as well. I've even thought about asking her before I drop her off at her place when we come back.

 

...true enough, to ghost69. Asking her out on a date isn't asking her to be your girlfriend. But eh... if you don't want potential awkwardness, I can understand waiting for after the trip. Up to you. Just my two cents.

 

I know its not like asking her to be my girlfriend or even asking her to get married. But still you never know how she could take it and like you said potential awkwardness.

[ghost69]

so you are going to go a whole month or however long wondering if this girl is really into you by putting off asking just to go on this camping trip? or to not be awkward? i don't think it would be.

[Pegasus]

The longer you wait, the harder it will become to ask her and you will get more and more nervous. Do it as soon as possible.

[jengh]

so you are going to go a whole month or however long wondering if this girl is really into you by putting off asking just to go on this camping trip? or to not be awkward? i don't think it would be.

 

Yeah, I tend to agree with everything ghost has said on this thread. Why wait? Just go up to her next time you see her and ask her to dinner.

[ghost69]

Yeah, I tend to agree with everything ghost has said on this thread. Why wait? Just go up to her next time you see her and ask her to dinner.

 

obviously he wants to know by opening a thread asking what we thought.

[glegend]

so you are going to go a whole month or however long wondering if this girl is really into you by putting off asking just to go on this camping trip? or to not be awkward? i don't think it would be.

 

Yea I guess so. Unless the right time with the right moment comes by.

[ghost69]

Yea I guess so. Unless the right time with the right moment comes by.

 

that should actually be now. you are into her and you want to know. sooner than later.

[glegend]

that should actually be now. you are into her and you want to know. sooner than later.

 

I guess after bowling I should just ask her or I know an even better way. We're always trying to go to Little Ceasars for pizza together during our lunch break. However, for some strange reason it doesnt always work out. So I could bring up the topic of pizza and ask her to go for pizza.

[ghost69]

go get coffee and sit and talk. something.

[glegend]

go get coffee and sit and talk. something.

 

Thats what we gotta do. She told me today that she invited another one of her guys friends along on the camping trip. Now I'm pretty sure that she is not dating him because when people ask if she is still single she says yeah and I remember about 8 months ago she had gone to one of his parties with her ex-boyfriend so I'm pretty sure they are not dating. If they are then I friend-zoned again and screwed up.

[ghost69]

you are friendzoning yourself now by waiting.

[glegend]

Yeah well thats all I seem to able to do with girl is just friend-zone. It seems to be what I am good at. I was so stupid when I ask her to go bowling, I should of asked her to go out and then take her bowling. Like ask her out officially, and then it would have been w/e for the camping trip.

[ghost69]

any update?

[glegend]

Well the camping trip is off because a few co-workers of ours couldn't get the time off. She has exams this week, and she said she can't go out and waste good study time. She finishes school in 5 days so we're going next week bowling. Then I'm going to make my move and just ask her out. Hopefully we go bowling like Monday or Tuesday and if she says yes to a date then we go like Thursday or Friday.