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Please it is a little long but I really need the help!



I met this girl about 2 weeks ago. First sunday in May. At a friends gathering. We started chatting and hit it off. She told our mutual friend that she really likes me and I ended up driving her home and exchanging numbers and setting a dinner date for the following thurs. Had a GREAT first date. Huge chemistry and a ton in common.( Which only got deeper as time went) Hug and a innocent kiss goodnight. On the Saturday Went with the mutual friend to visit her at the bar she works part time at and she was all smiles. All the girls said she couldnt stop talking about the "guy" she met and told our friend that she feels all giddy and she cant remember feeling this was for a long time. Chatted with her the next night on the phone and we set up date 2. Went out on date 2 on the tuesday. Had a great night ended at a romantic little wine bar sharing stories laughing and some definate physical flirting. She said we should check out the farmers market on the sunday and i suggested we go for a hike (Which she is into) She made me aware of the amount of school work she had to do and that wouldnt work for her. Date ended with a small kiss. Our mutual friend ended up having us over for dinner on sunday (which i had brought a small gift i had made for her which she loved)and again it was all smiles. We ended up going out the 3 of us to the bar she worked at and we had a blast. Again some physical flirting and she even called me baby. She had also told her friend that night how she loves that she can be "herself" around me and that she likes i am not the type of person that always has to be beside her etc. Also mentioned that I hoped i understand how busy her schedule was with work and 4 courses in school etc. Which i totally do. We chatted about some stuff and ended up setting up a third date for this thursday. We all ended back at our friends house and stayed over all in separate beds as the hot tub had taken the toll on our bodies and the drinks we had consumed. Got up next morning (monday) cooked breakfast and we all went our ways etc. I left by saying i would see her thursday and she put her arms around me for a huge hug. Sent her a text today saying that I hope she is having a great day and she sent one back thank you and you too, good luck with you meeting. 3 hrs later i get this text. (Hey, sorry thurs isnt going to work for me. I am super overwhelmed with school right now, this last month is crunch time.) To which i responded (I understand timing is off....no worries. I rather enjoyed spending time with you and would really enjoy seeing you again so do give me a call when things arent so crazy for you keep in touch) She responded with (I did too, i will for sure! Have a great week!)


I talked to our mutual friend and she said that she knew she was super busy as she had a hard time getting a hold of her and that at least she didnt say she didnt have feelings for me?????


So now i am sooooo confused on what happened here. I totally understand just how busy she is etc. But why get so into it just to pull the plug? What are your thoughts, opinions? what is my next move? What happened here!!!!

Is this something that will come around?




Thank you

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I think definitely don't contact her first. Let her contact you first. It's too risky to 'push' her and drive her away. From other posts here it seems that people do change their minds about someone, after a promising beginning, so there is just the chance that she has for some reason, or is being cautious. You have nothing to lose by letting her contact you first, which is the way you both left it, for her to contact you.


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I just dont know how to read this one. I know she is a super honest and down to earth girl and I do know that there we mutual feelings here. But it sounds like a typical blow off from a girl.....or it could just be what it is and too busy right now.......ahhh so unsure!!

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