the boyfriend isn't as warm

[stranded247]

Recently my boyfriend has been pretty ill for the past few weeks with some viral ear/throat infection so I havn't seen him for about two weeks and because we're both in the middle of exams we havn't had a chance to talk much but when we do he's just slightly moody/sarcastic and not as warm as he usually is. He only sweetens up when I tell him it's annoying. It's just getting to me tonight, I wan't him to be nice and tell me he loves me and it just ain't happening. I'm putting it down to illness and circumstances.

Any of you experience a little bit of hot'n'cold from time to time? If so why?

[Sunny1607307996]

He's sick and he has exams? No wonder he doesn't have the effort to put on a happy face for you all the time.

 

Being in a relationship with someone means that you see all of them --the good, the bad, and the ugly. It's part of being vulnerable and letting your guard down with someone.

 

Be nice and warm to him back. I know you have exams too but I'm assuming you have your health. Being sick during exams is no fun at all.

 

Suck up his bad mood and plan something fun for when you're both not as stressed.

[stranded247]

He's sick and he has exams? No wonder he doesn't have the effort to put on a happy face for you all the time.

 

Being in a relationship with someone means that you see all of them --the good, the bad, and the ugly. It's part of being vulnerable and letting your guard down with someone.

 

Be nice and warm to him back. I know you have exams too but I'm assuming you have your health. Being sick during exams is no fun at all.

 

Suck up his bad mood and plan something fun for when you're both not as stressed.

 

Yeah, I'm trying that so far. Sent him a text wishing him good luck for his exam tomorrow.

[Sunny1607307996]

I think that's a sweet thing to do. Unless you live nearby and can bring him some soup or something, I would just give him some space to concentrate on exams and feeling better. For now just bury yourself in studies and when exams are all over I'm sure he'll be much more pleasant.

[stranded247]

I think that's a sweet thing to do. Unless you live nearby and can bring him some soup or something, I would just give him some space to concentrate on exams and feeling better. For now just bury yourself in studies and when exams are all over I'm sure he'll be much more pleasant.

 

Awh I wish I lived near enough to do that but it's a half hour bus ride away and his mum is an amazing cook anyway. But yeah you're right I should just do that. Got a whole month of exams left gahhh. But he arranged to meet up with me this weekend for a bit.

[Circe]

Another option is to back off a bit until the period of stress (on him) is over. Ideally you'd want to be supportive, rather than back off (provided it was something he wanted) but if he's being sarcastic regularly and its truthfully hurting you, better back off then risk your feelings getting very hurt and doubt spreading to your mind and resentment growing, you know?

 

Btw - I love your avatar. It's just the picture of romance to me. I love tall ships..

[stranded247]

Another option is to back off a bit until the period of stress (on him) is over. Ideally you'd want to be supportive, rather than back off (provided it was something he wanted) but if he's being sarcastic regularly and its truthfully hurting you, better back off then risk your feelings getting very hurt and doubt spreading to your mind and resentment growing, you know?

 

Btw - I love your avatar. It's just the picture of romance to me. I love tall ships..

 

 

Yeah if he continues to be grouchy/sarcastic I will just back off and hide in the library until it's all over haha.

Thanks I took the photo myself whilst sailing in france, I admit it's slightly edited but the original photo was still beautiful.