Ex Boyfriends Family

[cnik1010]

My ex boyfriend and I are working on things right now, and they are going so well. Everything seems to be going in the right direction. And I couldn't be happier.

 

The current problem:

He comes from a very large family. And they are pretty close. One of his sister in laws is on my facbook page and had emailed me saying that their family (the ex brother, herself and their 3 kids) would love to see me and I should come by. That they miss seeing me around. I mentioned it to my ex and he said that he wouldn't feel good about it.

 

I have tried to explain to him that when he brings people in his family he can not expect them not to build some kind of relationship with them. I am only the 2nd women he has ever brought home to meet the family. (he is 29 years old) And to be honest I have never been this close to a boyfriends family.

 

She emailed me again today and said "hey, lets set up a date for you to come to dinner,we'd love to see you" I don't know what to say her to her.

 

Me and the ex are really trying to work things out. He is a very private person. He doesn't like people talking about him, or what he has going on in his life. I think a lot of it has to do with his family and the fact that they are a bunch of talkers. He has never really told his family much of what goes on in his personal life. So I am sure they are looking for answers. We broke up about 2 months ago. I don't want to be rude to his sister in law. But I don't want to make him mad either.

 

I don't know what to do.

[indierockgrl]

I personally would wait until your ex is comfortable with the situation. You may end up doing damage to your reconciliation if you go over there and he doesnt agree. It is his family and not yours and i would respect his decision in this situation.

 

you can always be honest with his sister in law and just tell her that it would be better to wait on dinner until you and your ex have worked things out. Just for the comfort factor for all of you. Maybe he only wants his family to know so much about your relationship at this time, being he is a private person. If you love him and want it to work i would just be patient.

[sophie274]

I think you should tell the sister in law that you are very grateful for the invitation, and would love to see her and her family, but that you know it makes [ex] uncomfortable, and want to respect his wishes. That you hope you can see them in a few months when everything settles down, and that until then you're sending them hugs and kisses and all the best.