I dont know what to do about my course

[Anusha]

For the past year and 2 months I have been doing a hotel management course because I would like to work as recepcionist in a hotel.My graduation is in two months and my classes finish beginning of next month but I dont think I will be able to graduate.I have been missing a lot of classes and I failed in two subjects already.One of them I did again and there is another one left to do yet.Yesterday I found out that I failed another one but this time I wont have to do it all over again just do a test or project to get my grade to pass.And it seems I will fail another one that Im having now too.I really dont like that subject and the teacher is really bothered at me for missing so many classes that he told me to the project he asked for by myself.The problem is that I just cant be bothered to do it so I probably will fail too.I just had enough of the course and I even thought about giving up,I just didnt because there is just a few weeks left to finish it.But I keep missing classes since I dont like going there,what makes my situation even more complicated since if I dont have enough frequency I cant graduate.And there are those subjects I failed and maybe will fail too.It just seems to me that my situation is so complicated already to do something about it and I probably wont be able to graduate that I just fell like quiting it.I dont know what to do.

[Anusha]

I know it doesnt make much sense to give up 3 weeks before it finish but if I wont be able to graduate I just think to myself,what is the point to keep doing it? Plus I cant be bother to keep going to classes and put effort on it.

[ghost69]

why would you take a class to be a receptionist? especially for a year and some months. i would think you'd take a class like that to be in management or something higher.

 

but if you aren't into it, you aren't into it.

[penelope13]

I'm not very much in favor of wasting time and resources, if you know you are not interested in finishing this course and if you do not want to go into this direction.

 

However, what are your alternatives to this? Do you have any other plans in place?

 

Do you think it might be good for your personal development if you would force yourself to finish this course and graduate. It could give you a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, both of which might be beneficial for your personal growth

[Anusha]

why would you take a class to be a receptionist? especially for a year and some months. i would think you'd take a class like that to be in management or something higher.

 

but if you aren't into it, you aren't into it.

 

I thought the course would teach how to work in diferent areas of the hotel,and yes it has that but isnt the main focus.Is too much focused to be manager or open your own hotel and those are things I dont want to work with.

[Anusha]

I'm not very much in favor of wasting time and resources, if you know you are not interested in finishing this course and if you do not want to go into this direction.

 

However, what are your alternatives to this? Do you have any other plans in place?

 

Do you think it might be good for your personal development if you would force yourself to finish this course and graduate. It could give you a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, both of which might be beneficial for your personal growth

 

No that is the problem,I dont have any other plans.For a few years my career have been on hold and just since last year that I started to work and now to study.I dont think I can graduate considerating I missed too many classes already and probably dont have enough frequency to be able to graduate.Plus I have two failed subjects and a possible third one already.I just fell it all too damaged to do something about it yet.

[penelope13]

what type of job do you want to do? what are your career aspirations?

[Anusha]

I dont have any and I keep changing my mind about it.When I finished highschool I was going to university to become a genetics,than I didnt fell like studying and give up on that.I spent a few years not knowing what to do and having temporary jobs.Then last year I had my first long job as cashier,which I liked but I had to work a lot and the money isnt much good.What motivated me to go back to study but since I still dont fell like studying I did a shorter course instead of going to university.I really like english so I know I would like to work on something like that but not as teacher,just speaking english.That is why I started the hotel management course but Im not so sure about it anymore.I just dont know in what I want to work.

[ghost69]

why not just take basic courses at univiersity for now until you decide on something. you are going in complete opposite directions then changing your mind. going to english to speak english is a weird choice. if you want to be a translator, you will need more than english.

[Anusha]

I though working as a recepcionist in a hotel could be a good way to work talking in english.I thought about translator too but it doesnt necessaraly need to be that,I just want something where I have to deal with people from other countries and speak english.

 

I just checked and I think I really wont be able to graduate.I suposed to have just 25% of missing classes what means 40 hours (10 days since each day is 4 hours) and I think I have way more than that since there were times I missed 2 or 3 days in a week and every week I dont go at least once.

[penelope13]

What do you want to do with your life?

[Anusha]

I dont really know to be honest.For the past 7 years I didnt worry much about it because I thought I would move in to my ex country.I dont really have a dream job.I dont know what direction to go,Im 26 and I cant continue depending on my parents forever so I know I should do something about that but I really dont know on what I want to work.

[ghost69]

I though working as a recepcionist in a hotel could be a good way to work talking in english.I thought about translator too but it doesnt necessaraly need to be that,I just want something where I have to deal with people from other countries and speak english.

 

I just checked and I think I really wont be able to graduate.I suposed to have just 25% of missing classes what means 40 hours (10 days since each day is 4 hours) and I think I have way more than that since there were times I missed 2 or 3 days in a week and every week I dont go at least once.

 

why do you choose to miss so much class?

[Anusha]

I thought I wanted to work as a recepcionist in a hotel but now Im finding my course so boring and I really am not liking it that Im not much sure if I want it anymore.

[ghost69]

why not finish it up since you are so close? at least get credit for it and not completely lose money taking it.

[Anusha]

why do you choose to miss so much class?

 

Because I dont like them.Is so boring or about things I couldnt care less that I really couldnt be bother to go to school.I know I shouldnt miss them and the supervisor had a talk with me about it because I had done it last year too and passed the limit.I kept going everyday for about a month after that but then I couldnt stand it anymore and just started missing them again.I just really cant be interested or like it.

[Anusha]

why not finish it up since you are so close? at least get credit for it and not completely lose money taking it.

 

Because I probably wont be able to get my certificate.Plus I cant be bother to put effort on it so I probably will fail another subject.

[ghost69]

i don't know what to tell you, but this is no way to live your life. you are too sapped up over this guy. i can see it. a relationship should not be your whole world.

[Anusha]

It isnt because of him now.I agree though that I should have worried more about this before and not just about the relationship like I did for years.

[penelope13]

Maybe I am overstepping some line here, but it sounds to me that currently you have no real goal/ drive in life. This will not be beneficial for your self esteem and will also have an effect on your dating life.

 

While with dating you also need a bit of luck, with your career you have a bit more power to influence your odds of success.

 

I understand it can be difficult to find something that really interests you and that is within the skills you have or could acquire, but in the end you do not have a choice, you do have to do something to maintain your life style. Maybe you are fortunate enough that your family will provide for you, but in most cases you have to stand on your own two feet at a certain time.

 

So even if you do not like this course and you can't be bothered, I'd recommend that you try to find the energy/ motivation to challenge yourself to force you to graduate from this program. It doesn't really look good on a CV if you have started something and then not finished it, if you do not have a very good reason or alternative for it.

 

It might not be what you want to do, but finishing something can be a tremendous ego boost.

 

On top of that, most guys find someone with a job usually more attractive

[Anusha]

Maybe I am overstepping some line here, but it sounds to me that currently you have no real goal/ drive in life. This will not be beneficial for your self esteem and will also have an effect on your dating life.

 

That is true,I really dont have a goal/drive in life now.For the past years my goal was my relationship so I kind of left everything else aside so now I not even know what I want to do as a job.Anyway you are right I cant keep depending on my parents forever.