janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I had a "one night stand" with a man whom I only know by first name. OK, last name too, but only because I was in search of my cell phone, and went through his glove compartment to do so (he didn't see me pick up the pill bottle, that had his name on it). But anyhow, I ended up finding my cellphone and panties, eventually, buried in the sand. I met him in the bar at around 1:30 am. I don't typically do this kind of thing (one night stands), in fact, I hardly ever go out in the first place. I kept telling myself, something "GOOD" better happen, before I left to go out with my friends. & sure enough, something GREAT happened. 1:30 am-at the bar- I'm dancing around drunk, sipping on a "sex on the beach", getting ready to play some pool. I ran into this guy -- we get to playing this bean bag game with some other people. We played a few rounds and were talking about absolutely nothing. He asked me what I was having to drink and took my hand and we walked to the bar. He bought me 2 sex on the beaches and 2 for himself. He started talking about how beautiful I was and how I had beautiful big hazel eyes. I kept telling him that he was sexy and how sweet of a person he was. We talked for about ten minutes and I told him that I've never had sex on the beach, but it has always been a fantasy of mine. He told me he wanted to fulfill my fantasy and 20 minutes later, we're laying on a beach somewhere making out. (Yeah, I know how that must sound, but it was my birthday and I hadn't had any in awhile, so give me a break!) & I could tell by the way he was acting that he has never done anything like this before either. The sex between us was very passionate. We got to the beach at around 2:15 am or so. We didn't leave until 6:30 am...after dawn. We "kinda" watched the sunset. All morning long, he just wanted to please me. He made me feel absolutely amazing! We worked our way from the beach, to his SUV, to the hood of the SUV, to the driver seat, back to the trunk, to the backseat...It was absolutely amazing! Words cannot describe how good he is in bed. He gave me the most intense orgasms ever! I hope I am not getting to "mushy" on here, but I have to let this out before I explode. I miss him so much. When we left the beach, he stopped and we got coffee. Before I got out, he asked me when good time was to call? I told him he could text me anytime, and call me on the weekends. I didn't get his number, which I'm regretting now. Ishoulda asked him for it. But I think he has mine? When we were looking for my cell phone, he called me and told me it went straight to voicemail. So, I am assuming he previously stored it in his phone. Now I am stuck here, two days later, fantasizing about him. Just waitin' for him to call. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 "I don't typically do this kind of thing" Isn't that what everyone says after a one night stand? LOL Chances of this guy calling you back for something more? Not likely. He got what he wanted. Link to comment
Shudder Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 and chances are he has done this before.. Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 "I don't typically do this kind of thing" Isn't that what everyone says after a one night stand? LOL Chances of this guy calling you back for something more? Not likely. He got what he wanted. I was hoping you wouldn't say that^^. He was the one asking me when he could call me.oopps..rephrasing that..didn't make anysense..lol I didn't even ask him for his number. Now, I'm thinking I should of asked him for it, to show him that I am interested in taking this further and friendship. Now, I'm waiting....for him to call... Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 and chances are he has done this before.. Maybe?? If so, that's his business. I just want him to call me. I want to meet up with him again, sometime soon. I just hope he calls. He did seem a little shy the morning after. He doesn't seem like that talkative person I met in the bar the night before, that's for sure. I'm sure it was the drinks talking for him..lol...but isn't that how we ALL are? I just hope he's not TOO shy to call? Link to comment
hers Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I was hoping you wouldn't say that^^. He was the one asking me when he could call me.oopps..rephrasing that..didn't make anysense..lol I didn't even ask him for his number. Now, I'm thinking I should of asked him for it, to show him that I am interested in taking this further and friendship. Now, I'm waiting....for him to call... He asked for your number so he didn't look like he was in it just for the sex. It's a coverup. He probably won't call. What are you missing about him? You don't know this person at all and he got laid after talking to a girl 20 minutes. You may want to look into upping your self respect and why you see this guy as someone you want to hear from again. Link to comment
ellandroader Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 He asked for your number so he didn't look like he was in it just for the sex. It's a coverup. He probably won't call. What are you missing about him? You don't know this person at all and he got laid after talking to a girl 20 minutes. You may want to look into upping your self respect and why you see this guy as someone you want to hear from again. X2 I am sorry but I agree too....looks like daylight robbery especially as you are clearly invested some. Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 He asked for your number so he didn't look like he was in it just for the sex. It's a coverup. He probably won't call. What are you missing about him? You don't know this person at all and he got laid after talking to a girl 20 minutes. You may want to look into upping your self respect and why you see this guy as someone you want to hear from again. Just because I enjoy sex, doesn't mean that I have "NO" self respect. What does having "fun" and "self-respect" have to do with anything? It was my birthday and I was out to have a good time anyway. If he wasn't so into pleasing me and giving me what I wanted, then I probably wouldn't have slept with him. I can say that he spent like 2.5 hours, just giving me oral. It was so worth it to me. I was having a LONG week, HECK, A LONG YEAR and I needed some sweet release & got it from a HOT guy! Who had no problem PLEASING me. I don't do this sorta thing all the time. Yeah, I've done it before, but so? What's it to you? Are you envious? Why do you have so much animosity towards me? If it bothers you that much, go run a rally on "one night stands", but I can guarantee you that 1 or 2 people will show up. Who hasn't had a 1 night stand? & I am more or less waiting for his call because i like how he is in the bed. Is there something wrong with enjoying sex? i found someone who knows how to please me, and i want to stick with it, until I get bored. Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 X2 I am sorry but I agree too....looks like daylight robbery especially as you are clearly invested some. Don't really understand the analogy behind this...but ok? Link to comment
ellandroader Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Don't really understand the analogy behind this...but ok? What I mean is that he came, he saw, he got what he wanted and left. Like a smooth criminal, he probably used you. I agree that he has probably sweet-talked others before and deceived them, with the phone number exchanges and so on. The fact that you miss him is probably of no real concern to him, which is what sucks about it. Link to comment
hers Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Wow the attack! That's so funny you talk back to me like I'm a prude. If you hang around this forum long enough, you'll see that's quite the opposite. I say you don't have self-respect not b/c you had a one night stand. One night stands aren't the problem. What the problem is is that you are waiting on a guy who probably just wanted to get laid and you "miss" him. You miss a guy who you don't know and you had to rifle through stuff to learn his last name. You shouldn't be waiting on anyone. You should take it as a one night stand and not get caught up in something that had no emotional attachment for this guy. Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 What I mean is that he came, he saw, he got what he wanted and left. Like a smooth criminal, he probably used you. I agree that he has probably sweet-talked others before and deceived them, with the phone number exchanges and so on. The fact that you miss him is probably of no real concern to him, which is what sucks about it. Who knows? I don't feel like this tho. He didn't ask me for my number at all. When we were getting ready to leave, I lost my phone and I had him call it from his cellphone. That was the only time I gave him my number. So, it's not like he asked for it in the bar to get in my pants. If anything, I was the one who talked about "sex on the beach" NOT him. I don't think he was actually looking for what he got was tho! An it was AmAZING! On the ride back to my house, he asked me when a good time would be to call me. I told him he could text anytime, but only call on the weekend. That was when I would have some free time. I guess I'll never know anything til the weekend. If he doesn't call then, then I can label him as a "one night stand" and forgetabouthim......until then, I can't wait til he calls! I'm trying to stay optimistic about this Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Who knows? I don't feel like this tho. He didn't ask me for my number at all. When we were getting ready to leave, I lost my phone and I had him call it from his cellphone. That was the only time I gave him my number. So, it's not like he asked for it in the bar to get in my pants. If anything, I was the one who talked about "sex on the beach" NOT him. I don't think he was actually looking for what he got was tho! An it was AmAZING! Even more reason for me to think that he was just in it for the sex and you really are setting yourself up for let down by missing this guy you don't even know. I mean c'mon he didn't even ask you for your number obviously he had no interest in you other than sex. So yes, he did get exactly what he was looking for. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 On the ride back to my house, he asked me when a good time would be to call me. Like most guys are really going to tell you "yea i'm never calling again" to your face. Link to comment
ellandroader Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I do believe though that had he any interest in seeing/hearing from you, he would have asked for your number. So if I were you, I wouldn't expect too much and if you're not emotionally involved, then fair enough. However your post suggests that you are. Just saying mind you.... Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I do believe though that had he any interest in seeing/hearing from you, he would have asked for your number. So if I were you, I wouldn't expect too much and if you're not emotionally involved, then fair enough. However your post suggests that you are. Just saying mind you.... I agree.. The fact that you are "missing" him after only having drunken sex with him once is far more than just being physical on your part. You have only met this guy once, hell you only know his last name by looking at his stuff. He wanted sex, he got it. I don't think it was anymore than that for him. Unfortunately it seems like it may be alot more for you. Link to comment
nimisaj Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 op: i think you just have to treat this as a fun experience had by both parties... maybe he's busy and he can't call or he needs to clean up his own place before he invites you over!! i disagree with the negative responses -- it doesn't always mean he's a user of women or whatever (however, it is unwise to think that there aren't a large number of those out there!!!) Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 I do believe though that had he any interest in seeing/hearing from you, he would have asked for your number. So if I were you, I wouldn't expect too much and if you're not emotionally involved, then fair enough. However your post suggests that you are. Just saying mind you.... He got my number! What aren't you guys getting about this? Why would he ask me for my number, if I already gave it to him to call my cellphone? durdy, durdy, durdy, durdy?? Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 op: i think you just have to treat this as a fun experience had by both parties... maybe he's busy and he can't call or he needs to clean up his own place before he invites you over!! i disagree with the negative responses -- it doesn't always mean he's a user of women or whatever (however, it is unwise to think that there aren't a large number of those out there!!!) He didn't even ask for her number BEFORE having sex with her. I'm not a guy but i'd atleast think if he was interested in more than sex (Or even having sex again) he would have asked for her number prior to jumping in the sack with her. It's not negative, it's reality. Not many successful relationships come from "experiences" like these. Add on top of that she is "missing" him... Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 He got my number! What aren't you guys getting about this? Why would he ask me for my number, if I already gave it to him to call my cellphone? durdy, durdy, durdy, durdy?? He only got your number AFTER the fact because you asked him to call your cell. If he was interested in more he would have gotten the number PRIOR to hooking up with you. I'd be willing to bet had you not needed him to call your cell he wouldn't have even asked for your number. Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 op: i think you just have to treat this as a fun experience had by both parties... maybe he's busy and he can't call or he needs to clean up his own place before he invites you over!! i disagree with the negative responses -- it doesn't always mean he's a user of women or whatever (however, it is unwise to think that there aren't a large number of those out there!!!) We were both drunk, darnit! We were stumbling around and I feel kind dumb for going anywhere with him in the first place, because who knows, he coulda hurt me or we coulda got into a car wreck! But it was so worth it! I had the best birthday ever! lol.....I told him I always wanted sex on the beach and he took me to the beach. lol..How romantic... I got a call from an "unknown" # at 9:30 pm....That's never happened before....wonder if it was him?....DARNIT! Now, I'm MAD that I had my phone on silent!](*,)! Link to comment
hers Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No not every guy uses girls if they have a one night stand. But just b/c he asked for your number doesn't mean he's going to call you. Do you really think he'd say "hey, I'm not gonna call you, get out of my car". Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 But I think he has mine? When we were looking for my cell phone, he called me and told me it went straight to voicemail. So, I am assuming he previously stored it in his phone. You even said yourself you aren't sure whether he still has it or not. Now you seem all positive that he stored it right away and thats why he didn't ask for it. Link to comment
janedough93 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 He didn't even ask for her number BEFORE having sex with her. I'm not a guy but i'd atleast think if he was interested in more than sex (Or even having sex again) he would have asked for her number prior to jumping in the sack with her. It's not negative, it's reality. Not many successful relationships come from "experiences" like these. Add on top of that she is "missing" him... I'm not looking for a relationship with him. Possibly a friendship with benefits, if he treats me right, but other than that, I think he's married. I know that sounds bad....but he isn't happy and is on the verge of a divorce.......Now you guys can really yell at me....He didn't tell me this until AFTERWARDS, or I wouldn't have slept with AT ALL! I was kind of upset about that, but whatever....They will end up divorced eventually, if he is out doing her like that. My intentions aren't to be in a relationship with him. Those aren't them at all. I have other intentions.... Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I think he's married. Oh that is just GREAT! i'd be so proud of that if I were you. How do you expect him to treat YOU right if he is married and is cheating on his wife. Link to comment
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