Belgian girl Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 My - almost - boyfriend feels sad about not being able to last longer. His penis feels very sensitive. Anyone advise ? Link to comment
HouseKitten Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 Do you use condoms? They make the desensitizing kind which are supposed to numb him up a bit and make him feel less, so it takes him longer to work up to orgasm. That might be worth a try Also, does he generally control what's going on? If he's on top and controlling the pace then he's probably finding it hard to stop himself getting carried away. You could try going on top and asking him to tell you when he's close so you can stop, let him cool down a bit and then start up again. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted May 18, 2009 Author Share Posted May 18, 2009 Yes, he controls it very well. Even if it's woman on top he can't last long. We have done it a lot protected. Link to comment
HouseKitten Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 We have done it a lot protected. Well that's good, definitely try the numbing ones if you can get hold of them. Does he masturbate much? He should try practicing holding off orgasm by himself, then he might be able to carry that over to sex Link to comment
d24 Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 those numbing ones work to numb the head, but if it's the motion of the *clears throat* scrotum... it won't help much (if at all). Let him control the pace and make sure he's going slower. And get him to masterbate, or give him a HJ/BJ before. That'll help. Link to comment
Kaiser_Soze Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 This may sound strange, but have him try kegel exercises. They will give him stiffer erections and added control. Tell him to practice tightening and holding the muscle that stops him from peeing. He can do it whenever, no one can. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 desensitize it with lubes or condoms. Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I agree with all of the above. Also, you can try shorter foreplay. My ex & I would have really long foreplay sessions, & by the time it would get to the sex, he was on the edge of climax already. If you cut down the foreplay & just "jump" into the actual sex, chances are it should last longer. Link to comment
northwoods Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I know this sounds odd, but you could try to "do it" more often. Practice makes perfect, right? So if you're making him more comfortable and not making a deal out of him being too quick, he'll relax and probably last longer. Link to comment
LBP Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I'm always the one to say this... Liquor him up!! Link to comment
HouseKitten Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I'm always the one to say this... Liquor him up!! Haha! Just not too much, I've learnt firsthand how too much liquor can go the other way and kill his ability to get it up at all Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I agree with all of the above. Also, you can try shorter foreplay. My ex & I would have really long foreplay sessions, & by the time it would get to the sex, he was on the edge of climax already. If you cut down the foreplay & just "jump" into the actual sex, chances are it should last longer. another thing is if the girl gives him oral or foreplay, stop just before he finishes, rest a second and gain his composure, then go for the sex. it will cause the guy to go longer. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted May 18, 2009 Author Share Posted May 18, 2009 what does liquor mean ? Tnx a lot you all ! Kegel exercises sounds interesting. I'll let know what happens Link to comment
Cardinal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Try doing it one hour after his last orgasm. I bet he responds well and lasts longer. More frequent orgasms should allow him to last longer. You can combine this idea with any of the other ideas that you think might work. I'd put a fair amount of money on it yielding markedly greater control. Link to comment
LBP Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 what does liquor mean ? Tnx a lot you all ! Kegel exercises sounds interesting. I'll let know what happens Oh, you Belgians are so naive! If a man is given a certain amount of alcohol before having sex, his penis will be desensitized to an extent. This will allow him to 'perform' for longer periods of time. As a poster above has noted, do not give him too much; overindulgence causes erectile disfunction! Link to comment
lols777 Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I practiced lasting longer during masturbation. It only took me a month, and now I can last just about as long as I want to. Link to comment
VincentVega Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I'm always the one to say this... Liquor him up!! ^^^^ this ^^^^ Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 I will tell him, tnx. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I doubt getting him drunk will help. Sure....he might last longer, but he's gonna suck from being out of it. Link to comment
PixelPusher Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 When it comes down to it, lasting longer is a mental exercise in restraint. He is pushing himself past the "point of no return" if you know what I mean. What he needs to do is practice getting to that point, and then backing off until it subsides.... then try again. He can do this with you or by masturbation, or both. LOL When he gets close, have him stop and grasp the base of his penis tightly and have him concentrate on NOT orgasming... he may need to distract himself with random thoughts.... but once that passes, it gets easier. I wouldn't recommend getting him buzzed/drunk on alcohol because that's not solving the problem... it's only temporarily fixing it. And personally, I don't want someone to need alcohol of any kind just to have sex with me. I want them 100% there. Link to comment
servedcold Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Once you are in the act, have him concentrate less on rhythmic thrusting motion and on more circular or side to side motions, slower motions, no motion at all and letting you move. These don't stimulate the penis as much, give you as much sensation (sometimes much more if done right), and once the penis has gotten acclimated, he should have more control. Link to comment
delicous Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Try to switch positions a lot, try not to switch to doggy style until hes about to burst..What i do because my bf is similar is, Ill start with just little bit of a blowjob and then ill stop, and then ill be on top and being on top he is less likely to go because IM controlling the deepness,and how fast we are going and how slow we are going... Its harder for a guy to cum when he isn't in control..try girl on top, normally makes them last longer... Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted June 14, 2009 Author Share Posted June 14, 2009 tnx. in fact he refuses sex almost all the time since several weeks. Link to comment
delicous Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 Im Sorry, I didn't know that-- Well hes missing out lol...Let him know how you feel and see if you guys can work out some type of sex schedule lol Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted June 21, 2009 Author Share Posted June 21, 2009 hahahah sex schedules guess it's b/c he's feeling suicidal again that he lost interest in sex. Link to comment
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