Girl at work

[Imp]

I've been having trouble reading this girl at work. I've only gone out with a few girls and its been about 2.5 years since I've gone out on a date with any girl and it's really starting to get to me.

 

Well anyways, there is this girl at work that I just can't even talk to. This has to be the biggest crush I've had on a girl since the last girl for that I liked and eventually dated 2.5 years ago.

 

The problem is I can't figure out why we always just look at each other and won't say anything other than "Hi" and a smile. I can look at her eye to eye from far away and I start to think maybe she thinks I like her or she likes me or something else like I'm staring at her(which I'm not, because any time I look I can swear she's looking right at me eye to eye) so I will look away and it makes me feel nervous. I've held it sometimes and she just won't give in, but yet when she walks by me she won't look at me unless I say something, which will make her smile at me. I've been the one to say Hi every time(only a few times), but she won't say anything else. I can't think of anything to say, so I just say hi hoping she would start something.

 

What do you think she looks at me for? Does she think I'm weird? Also what are some things I could say that aren't lame? I'd rather just get it over with and ask her out, but that may be a bit much for just starting to talk to her. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend or not, which makes it even harder.

 

Thanks for the help.

[gidget1]

I think she wants to talk to you. Right now it doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend or not, you're still allowed to go up and talk to her. I'm assuming that she's too shy to go over and start a conversation with you, but she obviously isn't too shy to make eye contact.

I would spark up a conversation with her, just ask her how work's been or something, and look at her actions when she's talking to you. If she talks to you and holds eye contact for a lot of the time then she's interested in you/talking to you.

Also if you're too shy to really start a conversation with her, just try and tell yourself that you aren't interested in her, just moreso want to get to know her or make a friend at work, it makes it easier for us shy people!

[dr_styles]

I think she wants to talk to you!

 

I'm not sure on that one. She could be shy, I'll accept that, but I see a little bit of me in the above (as Imp). As a "hopefully-improving" shy guy I'll make an effort to do the eye contact and fire off the Hi, and see if anything happens. Anyway my point is that it may not be much, but he is giving an opening of some sort for her to start something. Sure there could be something better he could say, but surely if she was interested she'd say ... something?

 

You've probably already considered how to get her in a more static situation and not on the go? That's what I'd consider to be the best, maybe only way to find out, without becoming more forward.

[Knotty]

Be bold! The next time you see her or she looks at you, go right over to her and sit next to her...haha. See how she reacts then. If she smiles, tell her you like her smile or that she has nice eyes. Then ask her about herself.

[Imp]

I think she wants to talk to you. Right now it doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend or not, you're still allowed to go up and talk to her. I'm assuming that she's too shy to go over and start a conversation with you, but she obviously isn't too shy to make eye contact.

I would spark up a conversation with her, just ask her how work's been or something, and look at her actions when she's talking to you. If she talks to you and holds eye contact for a lot of the time then she's interested in you/talking to you.

Also if you're too shy to really start a conversation with her, just try and tell yourself that you aren't interested in her, just moreso want to get to know her or make a friend at work, it makes it easier for us shy people!

 

I'll have to give this a try. I keep telling myself to start something, but I can't for the life of me think of anything to say and it's really frustrating.

[Imp]

I'm not sure on that one. She could be shy, I'll accept that, but I see a little bit of me in the above (as Imp). As a "hopefully-improving" shy guy I'll make an effort to do the eye contact and fire off the Hi, and see if anything happens. Anyway my point is that it may not be much, but he is giving an opening of some sort for her to start something. Sure there could be something better he could say, but surely if she was interested she'd say ... something?

 

You've probably already considered how to get her in a more static situation and not on the go? That's what I'd consider to be the best, maybe only way to find out, without becoming more forward.

 

I really wish it could be easier. If I say something, why won't she say anything else? She has asked me how I am after I say hi, but then it ends because I literally go blank as I can barely fire off the Hi unless I force myself.

 

Is she just being nice?

[Imp]

Be bold! The next time you see her or she looks at you, go right over to her and sit next to her...haha. See how she reacts then. If she smiles, tell her you like her smile or that she has nice eyes. Then ask her about herself.

 

That's the worst thing I feel I could do. There's something about that situation that just makes me more paranoid than anything, but I've already thought of doing it and couldn't(after seeing this).

 

That puts more pressure on me to do it right then and there. What if I walk up sit down and go completely blank? I'll feel like an idiot and it'll be over imo.

 

The few girls I have gone out with actually made me feel 100% comfortable around before I ever asked them out. It made it a little easier for me to read them and eventually ask them out, which went fairly smoothly.

[ladybug726]

Since you're so shy I don't think you should try being bold right off the bat. It will probably fail and make you both feel uncomfortable. If a guy was really nervous and said "You have a beautiful smile," he is very likely to creep the girl out.

 

Why not start off with, "hi, how are ya?" when you see her. Then as time goes by you can build on it. Ask "How was your weekend?" Then she'll start talking to you.

 

It might build a regular chatting thing going on between you two and it won't be like dropping a bomb on her when you finally ask her out (there's nothing like being caught completely off guard like that).