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been doing silly things since i had a mutual break up from my girlfriend...

basically, ive never read any of this forum stuff since the break up so my mind was taking control (and now i know it was the wrong thing to do)

what ive basically done is kind of pester my ex and i feel ive pushed her away from me. i dint think i was harming her, but one day she was in a bad mood with me and hasnt been the same with me

 

think NC would be to late to initiate? and give her time to her own would gain more respect for me?

 

 

just a bit depressed

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I think NC sounds like a good plan, and not to get her back, but to get yourself back. This panicky, overly pestery phase is one we all go through. Continuing that will certainly hurt your chances for reconciliation. Just relax. There's no quick fix or instant solution...whatever happens, it will take time. Take it from someone who is 8 months in. Change, whether healing or getting them back, takes lots of time.

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forgot to add. she told someone that i was acting jealous and she didnt like it (coz she is see-ing other people)... but i know i have acted wrong and stupid now! but after ive done the damage, just wondering if NC will gain her respect for me!

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forgot to add. she told someone that i was acting jealous and she didnt like it (coz she is see-ing other people)... but i know i have acted wrong and stupid now! but after ive done the damage, just wondering if NC will gain her respect for me!

No, but it will prevent you from losing any more of it!

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forgot to add. she told someone that i was acting jealous and she didnt like it (coz she is see-ing other people)... but i know i have acted wrong and stupid now! but after ive done the damage, just wondering if NC will gain her respect for me!

 

I take it you mean she is seeing other guys? Everyone is guilty of going crazy when their relationship breaks down, i am guilty of it to.By me contacting my ex it just pushed him further away. By going nc you are not faced with rejection. Going nc may gain her respect for you. Think of yourself.

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anyone got a method i can try regain her respect? coz she has been a friend for some years. and not only does it hurt that she is no longer my girlfriend, but no longer "a friend"

i am going to go NC. she if she will EVER talk to me again... just hurting a lot

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I believe that it will, but you MUST stick to it. Not only will she respect you more, you will respect yourself more as well.

 

 

forgot to add. she told someone that i was acting jealous and she didnt like it (coz she is see-ing other people)... but i know i have acted wrong and stupid now! but after ive done the damage, just wondering if NC will gain her respect for me!
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