Jump to content

Casual Relationships


confusedgirrl

Recommended Posts

Something I read in a previous post prompted this question.

 

I often wonder how people could have deliberate casual relationships and at the same time claim to have strong feelings for the person?

 

If I have strong positive feelings for someone I would want to be in a relationship with them but still I have found myself in this position. Because of these feelings I am putting up with things I should not be and he keeps saying he is not sure what he wants but he knows he has feelings for me.

 

I just want to hear everyone's thoughts on my question. Anyone in this type of situation what was the reason for it. Why didnt you want to be in a serious relationship with this person?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Fears and intimacy issues in general, i.e.:

 

  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of abandonment
  • Fear of enmeshment

This is of course assumed that the person DO have strong feelings for the other one. Sometimes it is probably said out of lust or loneliness.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Something I read in a previous post prompted this question.

 

I often wonder how people could have deliberate casual relationships and at the same time claim to have strong feelings for the person?

 

If I have strong positive feelings for someone I would want to be in a relationship with them but still I have found myself in this position. Because of these feelings I am putting up with things I should not be and he keeps saying he is not sure what he wants but he knows he has feelings for me.

 

I just want to hear everyone's thoughts on my question. Anyone in this type of situation what was the reason for it. Why didnt you want to be in a serious relationship with this person?

 

that's really hard to do long term. i'm having one now, and it's hard. i'm falling for him a bit, and it's going to turn out badly if i don't put the brakes on....well...i'll do it after the summer!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I Have Feelings For Someone Else Wh...
I Have Feelings For Someone Else While In a Relationship

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

×
×
  • Create New...