Help me understand these signals.

[Tyrion]

Hi new to these forums just wondering if someone can give me some advice on what to make of this situation I'm in.

 

I'm currently 22 and I used to be in a relationship with this girl about 6-7 years ago, in my teenage years. I kind of liked her at the time but it was a childs relationship and we broke up, she ended up sleeping with a guy she knew for years when they both got drunk at a party. Didn't care, only 1 month and we were young.

 

 

2 years later I get in contact and we get chatting, spending nights on phone.Eventually after about a week we met, and it was kind of an on/off period of sex for a month and just general fun, no relationship.

 

So after 1-2 month we just grew apart, she was busy with her life I was with mine, and lost contact.

 

3 weeks ago by chance I got a request to add her on bebo by this same girl. Aside from the few times I seen her at the nightclub, it has been 3 years since we really have been in contact. I accept and we get talking.

 

apparently she was in a 2-3 year relationship with a guy, But the breakup with her ex was about 2-3 weeks before I started speaking to her.

 

We speak for a few days, she starts flirting like mad, asks if i ever thought about the times we had when younger, and asks to come back to meet for drinks and come back to mine that weekend.

 

Well, I go to meet her at the time we agreed, and I get a text saying " something came up. " about 5 minutes before meeting. I was on my way there, so I got a bit mad at this and just replied with " ok. "

 

We didn't speak for 5 days or so and I get this request from her to add her to msn profiles. Which I find a bit odd since we haven't spoken since she texted me cancelling.

 

So I took the hint that she wanted me to speak to her and messaged her and asked her about why did she bother standing me up then not talking to me for days, what was the point in all of this. She told me shes been " busy " and no explanation for what came up, and that she hadnt contacted me since she had been extremely busy. Which I think is a lie, seeing as I seen her online multiple times in 5 days and she responded about 5 seconds after I messaged her.

 

She starts acting like I'm blowing everything out of proportion, although Im jus explaining why Im mad for being stood up.

 

I am not one for drama, so after about 5 minutes of this type of conversation, I tell her straight up if shes interested in meeting up then I don't mind talking to her, but if shes going to * * * * me around I'd rather shed leave me alone altogether. She responded with she's genuinly interested in me.

 

 

After that night I think we talked the next day, and haven't really talked since. That was about 1-2 weeks ago. I've never seen her online since.

 

She text me two days ago asking how I was, I responded yesterday and asked her what shes up to and she responds saying can't really spend all night texting not much money so hi/bye/what shes doing.

 

I'm just curious as to what the hell is going on. I don't know if she genuinly likes me, is messing me around, is meeting her ex and maybe trying to sort things out but not telling me incase I'm on stand by? Maybe she's wanting me to chase after her, take control? I really don't know.

 

I mean aside from that im in two minds to pursue it. I'm a bit untrusting after being stood up so I want to talk more before meeting, or wether to just cut contact completely, or what I really don't know.

[Tyrion]

I know it's a lot to read and sorry for the double post but does anybody have any advice, this has been eating away at me for a month and I would really appreciate advice from people who can read into things.

[AJEDrew7]

If she's genuinely interested let her pursue you because she's not acting as if she's interested in you. If she was, she'd be making the effort to talk to you and stop saying she's "busy" because honestly, I don't know about you, but even when I'm busy and genuinely interested in a girl I still make the time to talk to them and get to know them. Let her go, she's not worth your effort.

[Tyrion]

If she's genuinely interested let her pursue you because she's not acting as if she's interested in you. If she was, she'd be making the effort to talk to you and stop saying she's "busy" because honestly, I don't know about you, but even when I'm busy and genuinely interested in a girl I still make time to talk to them and get to know them. Let her go, she's not worth your effort.

 

This is the thing I don't get. I honestly don't think she's interested in me.

 

But I did give her the option to say no by outright asking her, and instead she said she is interested.

 

But that first week, she was flirting like mad, hell it was her idea to go back to my place that night after we met.......I just don't understand that from 3 years no contact why she would try contact me then hit out with the " do you ever think about the times we had" then cancel and basically ignore me but send some texts to keep in contact.....

 

It's just making no sense to go to all this effort. See I'm totally confused.

[AJEDrew7]

You mentioned the fact that she had broken up with a boyfriend 2 or 3 weeks before. Maybe she was looking for a rebound and wanted to make herself feel better about herself by talking to you and seeing if you were interested. I don't know? That's just a thought. But, could very well be true.

[Tyrion]

You mentioned the fact that she had broken up with a boyfriend 2 or 3 weeks before. Maybe she was looking for a rebound and wanted to make herself feel better about herself by talking to you and seeing if you were interested. I don't know? That's just a thought. But, could very well be true.

 

Well from what I know she initiated the break up with him, and yes that could make sense. But I did give her the choice to tell straight up if she's interested in meeting me or not after she stood me up, and she said yes. That's why its confused me.