Dating coworkers

[JustBeachy]

Yay or nay?

 

Just curious. I'm in Canada this week and met the new rep that will be working the same territory as myself back in Texas. Hit it off, went out last night downtown, got drunk, made out, but that's it. We're hanging out again today. She seems to like me. So...good idea or bad? I've always heard it was a bad idea, but I don't have to see her every day at work. We're in sales and have the territory split up. We'll be in completely different areas every day. Just wanted some opinions in case it led to something down the road.

[hailtothevictors]

I can't speak from first-hand experience because I've never really dated a co-worker before, but it seems like if you wouldn't see each other at work everyday and could still stay relatively independent at work it wouldn't be much of a problem.

[JustBeachy]

I can't speak from first-hand experience because I've never really dated a co-worker before, but it seems like if you wouldn't see each other at work everyday and could still stay relatively independent at work it wouldn't be much of a problem.

 

That's what I'm thinking too. I know I'm jumping way ahead with this b/c we've only hung out once, but it's been a lot of fun.

[JeckyllNHyde]

Yay or nay?

 

Just curious. I'm in Canada this week and met the new rep that will be working the same territory as myself back in Texas. Hit it off, went out last night downtown, got drunk, made out, but that's it. We're hanging out again today. She seems to like me. So...good idea or bad? I've always heard it was a bad idea, but I don't have to see her every day at work. We're in sales and have the territory split up. We'll be in completely different areas every day. Just wanted some opinions in case it led to something down the road.

 

Not a bad idea. Can make work fun.

It gets "bad" when you both break up though and have to continue working with each other.

As long as you both keep things professional though things are ok.

 

I dated 2 co workers and with one, I broke it off. He was very cold towards me of course and made me feel very akward everytime I had to go give him a message or ask him something.

 

Another co worker dumped me, and that was after he got my help. He later told the boss I helped him, where after she fired me. (Actually b/c she liked him too. Even though he was way too young for her. So as you can see that was a horrible/unprofessional place to work in anyways.)

[lady00]

I'd say no. But I know (and know of) several couples who met at work and got married and are happy as clams. I know one couple that met when the guy was in a higher position in the company they were working in. They dated and got married and both still work there (though some workplaces don't allow workplace marriages mind you).

 

Depends on how risk-averse you are. Willing to pass up a wonderful partner for fear of things not working out? I am, but that may be because I dated someone I had to work on a project with and it was very painful after he dumped me. I kept asking him why he asked me to work with him if he was just going to break things off and he said he didn't know he was going to do that. I oscillated between being angry and trying to reconcile with him.

 

I'd never work with someone I was dating, or vice versa ever again.

[SapphireNoir10]

Personally its a no no for me. Just too many issues if we break up I suppose.

[shes2smart]

Did it twice.

 

First time it was ok. No one ever found out and when it ended, it did so amicably. Then again, he was an exceptional person.

 

Second time, it ended up being a contributing factor to me leaving a job that I'd had for a looooong time.

 

In hindsight, it was a bad idea.

[ghost69]

i hooked up with a girl at work before. yes sex. she's gone now. but there would be all this crap on my desk, emails, phone calls. uhhh. i was so happy when she left.

 

i will never do any office anything ever again. dating? absolutely not.

[drewciouS281]

Normally im against dating people from work because ive had two issues happen because of it but since you will never see her it may not be much of a problem but keep in mind if things dont work out, im sure rumors of one or both of you dating someone else and what not will come about. Still something to think about.

[Mutley]

Where there's smoke you might get fired.

 

Really, you need to be the judge here.

 

There are risks, are they worth it?

[Princess_Jade]

I would advise against it!! It makes for a very uncomfortable work environment. Let me give you a scenario. Back in 2006 I worked at Target with this guy I started seeing. Come to find out the guy was seeing another co-worker at the target too. To make a long story short, he left me for the other girl & everytime I saw them together I couldn't handle it. Well one day, me and the girl got into a physical altercation over the dude & he was basically playing both of us. To make a long story short, all 3 of us lost our job.. LOL.

 

Not saying that the same scenario is going to happen to you but do you really think dating a co-worker is worth it?