Problem with friend

[Anusha]

I have a friend that acts pretty weird with me so I wanted to know your opinions about it.She is from another country and she is living in my country because her husband is from here since last year.I met her at work and exchanged phone numbers and since she is living on my neighboor I asked if she wanted to go out together.She said yes but every time I ask her she cant,and Im not talking about once or twice but I asked her a lot of times.There is always a reason why she cant,once was because her husband wasnt home and she isnt driving here yet so there was nobody to drive us to places.Other time her husband was there she said she couldnt because she wanted to be with him since they dont spend much time together because of his work.Other because she would call me and end up falling asleep,other because her husband's parents arrived there and many other reasons.After a while I gave up on asking her and she moved to another city.Now she is back to my city(living just a few blocks from my house even) and I asked her if she wanted to meet and she said she couldnt because her husband was at home and she wanted to spend time with him.Is like every time I ask her she never can and that makes me even wonder if she just doesnt want to but dont have the courage to say so keep making up those excuses.I asked her that once but she denied it but even now she keeps refusing to meet every time I ask.Why you think she does that?

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She doesn't want to be friends. Take the hint(s) and stop asking her to get together.

[Di_ya2009]

Maybe there are other reasons. She may feel awkward meeting up outside of work, or doesn't know how to carry on a conversation (How is she at work?) Maybe her husband is controlling? Trust issues? I knwo these are all assumptions, but people usually have reasons and some of them they may not be able to share. But, you have tried many times on your part. Let it go unless she initates a meet up.

[Anusha]

I dont think so,her husband seems to be a very nice guy even.She was fine talking to me at work and she emails and we chatt in MSN sometimes but I wanted to get closer to her and really be friends.Specialy with her living so close from my house I think we could do a lot of nice things together but everytime I ask is the same story.

[Rickster]

I dont think so,her husband seems to be a very nice guy even.She was fine talking to me at work and she emails and we chatt in MSN sometimes but I wanted to get closer to her and really be friends.Specialy with her living so close from my house I think we could do a lot of nice things together but everytime I ask is the same story.

 

If you wanted to get closer and meet her, meet her at her house. So she doesn't have to travel, and you live close by (one less excuse). If it were me, I wouldn't put up with these kind of people though.