phillyfan Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Hey guys, I know theres other threads like this, but I really just want to read about different stories and if I have my own thread it'll be much easier Please just tell me about it, whether it is you or one of your friends.. i wanna read some good stories! How old were you? How long were you together? Why did you breakup? How did you get him/her back OR how did he/she win your heart back? andddd how long did it take to start talking again after the first breakup? Thanks and I can't wait to read some stories! Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 My first boyfriend and I dated for a year and four months and then broke up. We were fighting all the time and it was just enough. But then I was miserable and wanted to get back with him. We ended up getting back together two weeks later but he wanted it to be "casual" so we could see other people but only sleep with each other. Of course if I saw another guy he hated it, but couldn't really do anything since it was his idea. It was a horrible idea to get back together. He was emotionally abusive the entire time we were together (two years total) and I have no idea why I missed him so much that first time. By the time we broke up the second time, I was beyond done with him. I still loved him, but couldn't even really stand to be around him anymore. Link to comment
DN Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Mid twenties Over a year. She went back to her own country She came back to my country Got back together Got engaged a few weeks later Got married a few months later Still married Link to comment
Raistlin Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 We were together for a year when I was 19 and she was 18. Broke up for 4 months. We broke up over some communication issues that lead to a large series of misunderstandings. We got back together because 2 months after, I got a text from her late at night while I was on her side of town, and I couldn't resist comforting her. We were together for another year. I've since been single for a year. Getting back with her was ultimately the single worst decision I've ever made, but I learned A TON of lessons and will never make those mistakes again. Now... if I could only get my self esteem back up after a long series of events that have taken place over the last 5 months, and find a girl worth my time.... Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Yes twice with the last one. Not worth it IMO Link to comment
Umlunguusa Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 I want to sometimes...but when I really think about it, it's like "why? what good would it do me or her? we both gone our separate ways, and so much of our emotional blood has been spilt, it's beyond that" though I do miss her...well, I miss her intensity, and intelligence (and physique, lol) but that's about it. I'm sure there are MANY other girls out there with that as well, so I ain't tripping really anymore. I mean, it sounds like a good idea on paper, and I'm sure if we were to get back together, then it'd be great...for the first few days. Then the problems we left for would just stem up again, and It'd be a repeat, which would REALLY suck, and it's something I don't need right now. and besides, these days, I think me wanting her is more my subconcious trying to convince me that I need her, to alleviate my ego...as in "she left you, and you can still get her back!" I think alot of people wanting their exes back is more of a thing about ego than anything else. for who wants anything else but what's out of reach? Link to comment
whes Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 We dated for 8 months. It was a rebound relationship for both of us. Broke up because I was leaving the country for a year. Dated other people. I came back, and we saw each other all the time at our dojo. Started seeing each other again about 8 months after. I'd been thinking about him the whole time, I think he was thinking about me too. Are still together, 7 months later. Link to comment
Nixee Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 My ex and I... We'd been together for about a year and a half when we broke up and we were living together. At the start of our relationship he pursued me pretty heavily, and I resisted, but eventually he won me over, and we were madly in love. I really thought it was forever, and I definitely thought he was on the same page. "Soulmate" and "love of my life" was the kind of language used. I was 20 and he was 23 when we met. When he broke it off with me it felt sudden and out of nowhere. I guess he was all the sudden fearful of how quickly he'd fallen for me and how serious we were at such a young age maybe? I really can't say looking back now even, but I wish I could... a better understanding of that first breakup could have helped us a lot in our future I think. But he ended it, I moved out, yet we never went NC. We stayed in touch and never let go. I definitely wanted him back. Looking back now... perhaps even then he was starting to have doubts whether things were right for him. Yet, he did love me. Eventually, one night at his place I just stayed the night and we slept together again and it was almost unsaid... almost unnecessary to say it... we were back together. We had issues, and he expressed concerns about feeling the need to date others or be alone for awhile still, and I tried to give him space, but it wasn't long before it was just... US again, and it stayed that way for several more years. However... I wouldn't call them easy years. Eventually though, the fighting and the doubts got to him enough that he began an emotional affair with a co-worker, and he left me for her. Do I regret ever getting back together with him though just because he ended up leaving me anyways? No... we had a lot of great years. But at the same time, sometimes you can't force the pieces to fit without truly dealing with all of your issues head on, which I think my ex and I definitely did NOT do, and that much I've learned. Getting back together just because you love and miss someone SO MUCH isn't enough reason to do it. You have to really pay attention to what forced you apart. Link to comment
whes Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Mid twenties Over a year. She went back to her own country She came back to my country Got back together Got engaged a few weeks later Got married a few months later Still married Aww. Good story! Link to comment
Brownstone322 Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 My first college girlfriend and I broke up when I was 20 years old, in the winter. She left for another guy, she was smug and obnoxious about it, and, as you might surmise, it was an ugly breakup. I had always wanted more out of the relationship than she did. About eighteen months later, in the fall, she contacted me and started making social inroads, although she was still with the possessive moron. (But it was beginning to unravel; he truly was a backward-thinking jerk.) By the following winter, two years after the breakup, she was back with me, although the expectations had reversed. Then she wanted more out of the relationship than I did. (Strange how that works.) She was a good sport, though, and we enjoyed several months of going out, having fun and having sex. Mostly sex. She graduated a year ahead of me, but for the next several years we met at "neutral sites" for weekend hookups. We "split" (if you wanna call it that), on very good terms. I had two other girlfriends, later, who also left me for other guys, and, over time, they both contacted me, and it was obvious that they were open to reconnection. But by then I had met my soul mate (the one I'm separated from now), so I wasn't interested in going backward. My current "ex" didn't leave me for a guy (a pleasant change), and we'll yet see how that works out. Experience suggests that time -- and playing it cool -- work in my favor. Link to comment
sunnyv Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 the more i read everybody's posts-time is the number one thing on our side. it sucks at first to think- gosh we have to wait or to wait for even someone better to come along but after all that is all we have-time. Link to comment
agtc Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 "How old were you? How long were you together? Why did you breakup? How did you get him/her back OR how did he/she win your heart back? andddd how long did it take to start talking again after the first breakup?" I was 17 Together for about 9 mos He cheated on me I DIDN'T TAKE HIM BACK - went NC and it took him 5 mos to return but I had already moved on by then. We talked again 2 mos after we graduated from HS and then I didn't see him again until 2 years later but I was already with somebody else at the time. Needless to say, nothing came out of it. Link to comment
sweetharmony Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 third boyfriend-we dated from 19-24 years old-he broke up after 1 year, he came back 6 months later-we stayed together for 3 more years after that and then i broke up with him because of the grass is greener. . i still miss him and regret breaking up with him and rebounding. he was a great guy, but realize that he is def not for me. we would have broken up anyways if not then-we are just totally different people now than we were at 19 when we got together. recent ex-dated for 11 months, he broke up with me, came back after one month-dumped me again after a month together. imo we got back together too soon after amd dodn't resolve issues that broke us up in the first place. we also kept in contact every other day after break-up and convos ended with me crying hysterically. i never even worked through the first break-up and the second one hit me twice as hard! time needs to pass for people to realize their mistakes and make positive changes. I was still angry at my ex for breaking up with me that I didn't even have time to see my role in the breakup. I was still angry and hurt and couldn't relax for fear of it happening again. Well, it did. Link to comment
mikel01 Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Me How old were you? 22 How long were you together?1.5 years solid then 1.5 years of off and on Why did you breakup? We were young and wanted different things in life and realize that we would never meet in the middle to make it work. How did you get him/her back OR how did he/she win your heart back? After the initial break up he called me crying within a month. Then we were together for 6 months then it starting unraveling. We were make up break up at least once a month for the next year. One of my best friends How old? 27 How long were you together? 6 years of marriage before breaking up Why did you breakup? She felt neglected because he was consumed with work. Also she married young and felt like she didn't get a chance to find her identity. How did you get him/her back OR how did he/she win your heart back? After 10 months, they reconciled and have been together for 7 years now. Link to comment
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