she says i am a nice person but.......

[SIck-boy]

When i get to know her she was attached but i donno. She noes that i like her from the start.... I've said last time that as long she has still not broke from her bf i will not chase or go after her again as i'm not the type that go after attached girls and she broke off with her BF that night it self... they broke off uglily. the next day we goes out together and had a great time as i don need to feels bad as she is single..... she says i am a nice guy and insisted that she neber say she neber rejected me before and say "who noes we may be more than frens in future". but also insisted that we are just frens now and we need to noe more abt one another... she says that if i known her more, i won be intrested in her anymore... but we goes out together often... she also sms me oftens... and now she's been da 1 who ask me out instead to da beach an stuffs... She like me or not?? or likes to play games with me??? but da way she acted as if she likes me already... but kept saying that we are just frens now and we need to noe each other now..... tell me what to do???????

[simulacra]

She's just been broken up. I think she knows that it is a vulnerable time for her. She doens't want to make you the rebound guy because she knows how often that can happen. The other thing is that she may not really know herself if she likes you yet. It may be too early. She still has feelings left over from the last relationship and probably does feel like she needs or wants someone around, but doesn't want to get into a serious relationship so soon yet (because of the potenial hurt).

 

When she says that you may not like her more when you get to know her for real, she is probably making a generalization that she seems to see happen to her. She's afraid of not being loved completely and thus will be apprehensive to share everything that she is (faults and everything) with you.

 

Just take it slowly with her for now. Remember she is still healing, but you can be there as a good friend for now and let her tell you when she is ready to see you as more than that.