DelG Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 You know what I don't think I'm falling for her. If it's a fling then whatever, I'll keep the mindset that it is what it is. Dude its nobodies business but yours/hers/and her SO... But the best Mindset is cut it off, cut it off now.. Do not go down this road, it will be more hell than cutting it off, trust me. Also the longer it goes on for the worse its going to get for you, once her guilt sets in or she gets found out, she will drop you like a manhole, not to mention her SO wanting smash your head in. Just tell her to leave you alone, and if anything you cutting her off will either make her make a choice or do what I guess she was always planning to do and drop you once she decides its enough. Just cut her off nicely and go NC.. If she turns up on your door step then you'll know Please....just leave it, no mindsets, no chances...I can almost bet 100% you will be sorry if you don't and suffer all manner of non essential heart ache. Link to comment
girl68 Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 You know what I don't think I'm falling for her. If it's a fling then whatever, I'll keep the mindset that it is what it is. This post and your first post totally conflict. You say she's got all these wonderful qualities you couldn't ask for anything better... blah blah blah we scream: leave, run, get out! And then you say nah, I don't like her anyways. Riiiight. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted April 30, 2009 Author Share Posted April 30, 2009 This post and your first post totally conflict. You say she's got all these wonderful qualities you couldn't ask for anything better... blah blah blah we scream: leave, run, get out! And then you say nah, I don't like her anyways. Riiiight. Well I have had time to read responses and reflect about the situation. She's awesome but, not that awesome. I'll only have myself to blame if I get hurt. Link to comment
girl68 Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 Well I have had time to read responses and reflect about the situation. She's awesome but, not that awesome. I'll only have myself to blame if I get hurt. True. She's not that awesome, not at all. Why don't you save yourself the face now, and leave it as I was once the other guy... and not I AM the other guy... Link to comment
bear314 Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 You never know what the future might bring. My advice would be to let go of her and tell this woman to figure/sort things out with the father (politely of course). Until then keep your respectful distance from the situation. Link to comment
Kantriakhor Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 Well I have had time to read responses and reflect about the situation. She's awesome but, not that awesome. I'll only have myself to blame if I get hurt. No offense but you've gone from pining for her to now just settling which shows ambivalence towards not only her but to the fact she's married. You're willingly going to continue violating their marriage (just as much as she is violating it), not for love and not for some kind of reason that may seem understandable but just because the sex is good, right? Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted April 30, 2009 Author Share Posted April 30, 2009 No offense but you've gone from pining for her to now just settling which shows ambivalence towards not only her but to the fact she's married. You're willingly going to continue violating their marriage (just as much as she is violating it), not for love and not for some kind of reason that may seem understandable but just because the sex is good, right? She's not married and become not quite sure what I want. I'm not ready for a relationship with kids involved or not. Link to comment
Kantriakhor Posted May 1, 2009 Share Posted May 1, 2009 She's not married and become not quite sure what I want. I'm not ready for a relationship with kids involved or not. I misspoke, so you're going into this willingly knowing you could irreparably damage a relationship and a family then. Whether ready or not what you're having is a relationship and soon enough kids will become involved when you're found out as well as their father. Link to comment
girl68 Posted May 1, 2009 Share Posted May 1, 2009 She's not married and become not quite sure what I want. I'm not ready for a relationship with kids involved or not. So then doesn't it make sense to just walk away then? You can find a cool girl, and have good sex without the gal being a mom, in a relationship with the baby's daddy. Link to comment
lady00 Posted May 2, 2009 Share Posted May 2, 2009 I would not believe what she says. If she were unhappy in the relationship she would leave. She is staying for a reason. And in addition, it doesn't sound like you actually want a relationship with her. So I don't see the point in continuing. Link to comment
createhappiness Posted May 2, 2009 Share Posted May 2, 2009 why would you want to bang someone else's girlfriend - plus they have a baby and live together? where are you in this equation? you're just her cheap escape from her real life and nothing more. bad, bad scene. cut her off. Link to comment
l9grl Posted May 3, 2009 Share Posted May 3, 2009 have you considered the consequences? let it go Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted May 4, 2009 Share Posted May 4, 2009 The is infidelty on her part and very poor judgment on yours. This is no way to start a relationship. I don't care how big of a jerk he is, she is with him not you! The jerk thing is just an excuse cheaters use to make them selves feel better anyways. Walk away and stay away from other guys girlfriends. If she ends it with him then maybe you might want to pursue something with her but don't be a choice. remember this: she has no problem cheating...... Lost Link to comment
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