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dumped 6 months ago from a 3.5 year relationship by a girl I thought was "the one"....made out with a couple chicks...nothing special...one liked me but I was just 2 months out of the relationship and all I could think about was my ex...now 6 months and I work overnights Monday through Friday....cant even get my firends who are now pretty much married to go out with me...so I have Saturday and Sundays nights to meet people....sometimes I go out Saturday nights if I can get one of my buddies to go out and sundays just suck...have gone out a few times by myself but I usually just sit at the bar feelin like a lonely loser....I HATE working overnights....cant get a different job....all I do is think about my ex, cause I CANT FIND SOME GIRL TO TAKE MY MIND OF HER!

 

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I wouldn't advise trying to get over your ex with a new woman. It could really hurt the other woman. That sounds like a lot of drama brewing.

 

 

 

I am not l ooking to hurt anyone....told the chick i met 2 months out it way too soon.....now its not..im ready..i just cant seem to find anyone.

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In the same boat as you, buddy. Just buried myself in my work recently to try to get the ex out of my mind (it's been 7 months).

 

Most of my friends are too lazy/busy to go out more than once a month.

 

At this point, I think I just might turn to an escort service to get some "companionship"...

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Same situation here, broke up 7 months ago out of 3 year relationship, very little friends. I work days but weekends I go to the bar and sit there by myself. I try and talk to people but guys are only there to meet girls. It's rough, I am doing the online dating thing but I was in LC with ex and never took the girls online to the next level. Started NC this morning, had "that" conversation with the ex. I am sure you can find a girl online that will understand your work situation. It sounds like you are available on the weekends, most career girls will be ok with that.

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In the same boat as you, buddy. Just buried myself in my work recently to try to get the ex out of my mind (it's been 7 months).

 

Most of my friends are too lazy/busy to go out more than once a month.

 

At this point, I think I just might turn to an escort service to get some "companionship"...

 

 

 

Yeah I cant bury myself in work...cause I hate my job...I have buried myself in LOOKING for another job. Anyways....since when did it get so hard to meet some women....its like now that I am 30 and work overnights it is freaking impossible.

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Same situation here, broke up 7 months ago out of 3 year relationship, very little friends. I work days but weekends I go to the bar and sit there by myself. I try and talk to people but guys are only there to meet girls. It's rough, I am doing the online dating thing but I was in LC with ex and never took the girls online to the next level. Started NC this morning, had "that" conversation with the ex. I am sure you can find a girl online that will understand your work situation. It sounds like you are available on the weekends, most career girls will be ok with that.

 

 

Tried the online thing....VASTLY overrated....yeah it would be nice to find a career girl...sucks going to a bar by yourself...never thought I would stoop to that...I dont know why but working over nights and having Saturday and Sunday off has made it freaking impossible to meet anyone...IT SUCKS.

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Then why even date? You still need love in your heart as I can hear the loneliness...why not get reengaged into life taking up both new and old hobbies by joining some clubs or a local link removed group or such?...nothing more wonderful than being with people who share similar interests and can lead to solid friendships...

Lovers come and go afterall.

 

I am not l ooking to hurt anyone....told the chick i met 2 months out it way too soon.....now its not..im ready..i just cant seem to find anyone.
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I get rejections all the time online, I just take what I can get even if its just for conversation purposes. We just have to do the best we can. Sh|t I'm 35, was married, divorced, had another 3 year relationship after that, so basically the last 8 years of my life have been relationship dependent. I just try, I have to try and force myself to go to the meetup's. I think just getting to the car will be a big step. I don't know why but I end up at the bar sitting by myself.

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You should never try to take your mind off one woman by finding another. No other person can fix you... only you can. It's better if you try to work through your pain yourself and be a better person on the other side... and THEN look for someone else.

 

I've never understood the mentality that says you have to find someone new in order to move on...

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Don't find a woman to "make" you happy. Find a full life of interests and THEN when you meet someone whose company you enjoy, go from there. I'm speaking from experience because I always thought I needed a man to be truly happy. I'm learning now that I don't...and neither do you! Yes, I admit, I would be a lot happier to have a partner (especially my ex), but we have to realize---what good would we be to a partner if we don't have anything to contribute? If you don't have your own life, what will you share? What will you teach them?

 

Women (and men!) don't want someone desperate. They want someone who sees them as unique inividuals. I don't want to just be a person to fill a void, in other words. I want a man who is happy and passionate and wants to share those things with me!

 

Wait until you're ready! I know I am going to take my time!

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Not desperate ...at all...I HAVE worked on myself as well....All I freaking want is to go on a few dates and meet some freaking women.....since I cant seem to meet anyone I think of the ex....THAT ITS ALL...I mean crap its been 6 months and I wanna get back in the game.

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i also would be very weary to put myself in the position to think i need a new man to fill the void of my ex. i'd feel i'd be setting myself up for disaster! if the new person doesn't work out, then you're back to square one - yourself alone in misery. what we should all strive for is inner peace and happiness as independent people. and what better way to attract another person when you are happy and confident on your own!

 

the best thing to do after a break up is to heal, become emotionally strong again, and to get your aura back. it is only after this happens that you are in your best position to attract another person and enter into and, more importantly, sustain a healthy relationship.

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i also would be very weary to put myself in the position to think i need a new man to fill the void of my ex. i'd feel i'd be setting myself up for disaster! if the new person doesn't work out, then you're back to square one - yourself alone in misery. what we should all strive for is inner peace and happiness as independent people. and what better way to attract another person when you are happy and confident on your own!

 

the best thing to do after a break up is to heal, become emotionally strong again, and to get your aura back. it is only after this happens that you are in your best position to attract another person and enter into and, more importantly, sustain a healthy relationship.

 

 

I DO have my aura back....it is just since I havent met anyone I keep reminising (sp) about the ex.

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