curious - if an ex dumped you for someone else how is it possible for them to think about you?

[agtc]

hm, i'm curious about the psychology of this. if an ex partner dumps you for someone else - how are they finding the room and time to think about YOU and miss you? -if they are too busy and occupied with their new found love?. And at what point do they realize that they feel a void in their lives and possibly made a mistake for dumping you?

 

comments and thoughts?

[Greedy Toad]

When the new person doesn't live up to their expectations and things aren't all strawberries and jam.

[melrich]

how are they finding the room and time to think about YOU and miss you?

 

They probably aren't I would guess.

[myonlymotive]

I'm an awful person, and so I've done it before >_>;

 

So I can say with some confidence that their ex is always at the back of their mind. It might work out or it might not with the second person, but whether or not it does, they won't forget them soon. I think there's always an element of guilt...

[skyblue69]

I asked this question earlier. It's interesting that "myonlymotive" said there's an element of guilt.

 

When we were breaking up in my car, he said "you're never going to find another boyfriend if you make them feel like s*** and make them feel guilty."

 

Basically, he was blaming ME for making him feel bad for dumping me (to "move in" with his ex) just 10 days after we got back together ..where he was supposed to "make it up to me".

 

I had told him it was his last chance, because "3 strikes you're out".

 

Basically, he was saying since I made him feel guilty (about him dumping me for a 3rd time just 10 days after we got back together), that I would never find another person.

 

Manipulation is his game.

 

To answer the question though, I dont think they think about you until their relationship ends months later. Then the yget selfish (again) and try to rekindle what they lsot with you. Basicaly, you're their backup boyfriend/girlfriend instead of a priority.

 

Plus, it just will never be the same knowing all the unprotected sex they had for MONTHS after our time together. I will feel like being with a prostitute. That's just how I think about things.

[toughlife86]

Plus, it just will never be the same knowing all the unprotected sex they had for MONTHS after our time together. I will feel like being with a prostitute. That's just how I think about things.

 

lol totally agree with u! but that is kinda of extremit thinking cause am sure ur ex had sex with someone else before u met her. altough i dunno why i think wheneever ive been with a girl and broken up and she has slep with another person that jut means its over for good. i would never be able to have sex with her. so basically i never get back together with an ex if she jas slept with some other guy after wards..unless 10 or plus years have gone by of course. then i would think about it...

[philove]

lol totally agree with u! but that is kinda of extremit thinking cause am sure ur ex had sex with someone else before u met her. altough i dunno why i think wheneever ive been with a girl and broken up and she has slep with another person that jut means its over for good. i would never be able to have sex with her. so basically i never get back together with an ex if she jas slept with some other guy after wards..unless 10 or plus years have gone by of course. then i would think about it...

 

I'm exactly the same, if my ex came back to me for the 3rd time and she had slept with someone else I couldn't take her back.