Dating again... (when?)

[Nighter]

So, it's been 7 months since I broke up with my ex. This was mostly long distance relantionship. I've never been able to be NC more than a month due to my unwillingness to resist her lame contacts (texts, emails) every 2 to 3 weeks. Last text she sent was less than a week ago. She always says shes afraid to go back to the same old crap (my words), so about 20 days ago I decided that I'm really really really really done.

 

I've had a couple of girls interested in me, but I always go MIA on them. There's this one right now that I've seen a couple of times now and I'm starting to like her. So, in your experience, should I wait a bit, until I'm genuinely over my ex? I obv miss her but I'm fine now. Dunno what to do.

 

Thanks in advance.

[CallingAllAngels]

Just get out there and have fun. Ask the girl you like out. You don't have to wait until your heart is completely healed.

[Nighter]

Just get out there and have fun. Ask the girl you like out. You don't have to wait until your heart is completely healed.

 

 

That's basically my idea. I just dont want to use her as a replacement patch or something like that. I saw her yesterday and problably will see her sunday. I want to have fun. yeah.

[heather1]

Its harder to get over someone when you dont give yourself another outlet for your feelings. You have to give yourself a chance to love someone else, or your heart will remain in the past. Get on with your life, have fun, find love again. You deserve it!

[IMAbadman]

Get out there and bust a move.

[philove]

I think dating other girls will definitely help you get over your ex faster but it's not fair to enter into a relationship with them until you are fully healed.

 

I was dating a girl quite soon after my ex who was great and really liked me but I had to break it off because I am no way near ready enough to begin a new relationship.

[CallingAllAngels]

That's basically my idea. I just dont want to use her as a replacement patch or something like that. I saw her yesterday and problably will see her sunday. I want to have fun. yeah.

 

Sounds like a good idea to me!

[longdist]

Yeah, get out there. You can't look at the past. A good example I've heard before is that you spend so much time looking behind you at a closed door, that you may be missing the open one right in front of you. When I met my ex of 4-1/2 years, I had an interest in another girl (similar to holding onto an ex), but thought I should give it a try. It turns out that my ex of 4-1/2 years was one of the best things in my life. I keep thinking about that when I think about holding onto my ex instead of giving new relationships a shot.

[CallingAllAngels]

Yeah, get out there. You can't look at the past. A good example I've heard before is that you spend so much time looking behind you at a closed door, that you may be missing the open one right in front of you. When I met my ex of 4-1/2 years, I had an interest in another girl (similar to holding onto an ex), but thought I should give it a try. It turns out that my ex of 4-1/2 years was one of the best things in my life. I keep thinking about that when I think about holding onto my ex instead of giving new relationships a shot.

 

Spot on......

[M7474]

Have my first date tomorrow, def not over my ex but I want to give it a shot. She seems like a really sweet girl. Single for 7 months now, out of a 3 year relationship.

[Nighter]

Have my first date tomorrow, def not over my ex but I want to give it a shot. She seems like a really sweet girl. Single for 7 months now, out of a 3 year relationship.

 

Good luck with that!

 

I often find myself comparing ex with whoever im with. I hope this doesnt happen to you. Enjoy...

[M7474]

I have with this girl already on the phone as well as my ex gf about my ex wife. Unfortuanately im the type to speak sometimes without thinking. I find most girls just put you in your place and say to stop I'm different. I respect that, I am hoping for the best, either way I am trying to get out there.