djn31 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 My girlfriend was getting undressed in the laundry room I was in living and I hear her laughing so I say what's so funny? Oh nothing but I press I want to know, she says she wore her underwear inside out all day... now that is funny and I told her how could you not notice when you went to the bathroom... She has a history of lying to me amongst other issues and I question alot of things she says, but we are trying to have trust and you know the same ol' cliche's but I had a hard time buying this....anyone else as cynical as me?? Link to comment
Mavh25 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Why the heck would she lie about that? If you question her on something as insignificant as that you are in for a rough ride... Its possible to do that. I personally don't stare at my underwear when I go to the toilet. Link to comment
djn31 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 oh the ride is already rough we have been together for three years... trust was broken... we went to counseling she lied too her too but has gotten much better... I think I just have moments of doubt I wish I could explain the whole jist of it in a post but I don't type fast and I am at work Link to comment
Kalypso Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 It's not a big deal.. Is it? Link to comment
d24 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 alone it's funny, combined with a few other curiosities and a suspecting mind.................. who knows! Link to comment
cruzer Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 If she had done something earlier that day and had accidentally put her undies back on inside out, why would she tell you? Could she not come up with something way better if trying to hide it from you? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 i don't know the other trust issues, so, other than that, i'd say it's just something funny. Link to comment
waveseer Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I've worn my panties inside out and even forgotten to wear them at all, not to mention walking around all day with a dryer sheet tucked in somewhere. We're human, it's amusing. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Umm I have wore my underwear backwards all day without noticing until I took them off that night. So I completely believe her story. Why is this such a big deal? I dont get it...Not sure why she would lie about something so small Link to comment
djn31 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Umm I have wore my underwear backwards all day without noticing until I took them off that night. So I completely believe her story. Why is this such a big deal? I dont get it...Not sure why she would lie about something so small because she has a history of doing this to me as well friends and family Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 because she has a history of doing this to me as well friends and family Even about little things like this? If thats the case...is she getting help? I cant imagine lying about something so trivial, what purpose does it serve. Link to comment
djn31 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Not sure of her motives but she actually lied to me about her grandpa droping some shears off to her at work at 5:00 when actually she left work at lunch and went and picked them up I know this cause he called me and mentioned it in passing after she told me she was running late getting off from work because she was busy with grandpa Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 So my question now is, how do you approach her with this? Do you let these lies slide? Also, how can you be with someone that you dont trust at all? You dont even believe she tells the truth about the smallest things possible, how can you believe anything she says? Link to comment
djn31 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 We discuss this quiet alot... those are legitimate questions I struggle with in my own mind apart from her.... everyone I talk to makes it sound so easy... when in reality I am very torn... she is very resentful to me because I don't rust her like I should she admits she has made many mistakes but it feels like I am at barrie I can't forgive and move on and I keep questioning new things I don't know what to do...it feels so complicated Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Well what does she say when you guys discuss this? Did she say she wont lie anymore? BUT then you caught her lying again? Or is she genuinely trying and you are trying to "catch" her in lies now? How did it lead up to this point? Sorry, so many questions. Im just trying to figure out how it got to this point. I mean to question something simple like this shows that there is no trust in this relationship whatsoever. Link to comment
djn31 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 part of me feels she is genuinely trying but I keep searching for things thinking she is lying which isn't fair... I understand it is bad and so does she... she feels lying is ok if no gets hurt... like lying about purchasing a new shirt... she said once and I quote "I have lied my whole life" if you have the time to read past posts it will explain why the trust was broken in my opinion Link to comment
hottboarderchick Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I myself have worn my undies inside out and didn't notice all day til I changed in to my pj's I had to laugh at myself about it too. I even had a pain on backwards for a lil bit too lol. Anyways... I understand the trust thing. I've been there... we all been there. Jealousy happens we are all human. as a few other posts said if she was hiding anything she wouldn't have told you. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Huh? I don't get this at all - it seems very natural and innocent and quite funny, why on earth would you think she was lying about it? Sounds kind of odd to me, your reaction... Link to comment
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