vertigoxo Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 It's been a while since the break up, and now I'm pretty much overall happy with my life. I feel more at peace within myself than I ever had in the past. The bad thing about this, is that my ex and I share tons of mutual friends, and it's like, they have this NEED to keep bringing him up. I don't feel love or hate or anything against my ex anymore- I feel indifferent. I don't feel anything when they say his name, but I keep telling them to stop, just so they can do it again. What should I do? PS- And what's so weird is that when I tell them to stop it, I'm over him, I'm happy with my life now, etc- They look very uncomfortable when I say it, as if they don't want to hear that. Link to comment
planetnomis Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Hey. We've talked before, only last time it was you who helped me out Does your ex still have bitter feelings? Mine does, and that ruined some mutual friendships, even though I feel indifferent. She just couldnt let things go, so her friends that I was friends with couldnt let somethings go either. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Hey. We've talked before, only last time it was you who helped me out Does your ex still have bitter feelings? Mine does, and that ruined some mutual friendships, even though I feel indifferent. She just couldnt let things go, so her friends that I was friends with couldnt let somethings go either. It's funny that you asked. My ex tried SO HARD to get me jealous, especially with him jumping into a rebound relationship not even a month after our break up. (Our break up happened almost two months ago!) So... I don't know. Why can't our friends just let it go already? Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Eep! Can't someone please help me? It's bugging me sort of... Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I would simply counter every mention of him with, "Why would you feel the need to tell me this?" And not a single word more. Put it back on them, since they're the ones with the problem... Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 I would simply counter every mention of him with, "Why would you feel the need to tell me this?" And not a single word more. Put it back on them, since they're the ones with the problem... Ugh. I know, I really should be strong and tell them off just like that. I just wonder why they keep bringing him up. I mean, one of them even said, "HEY GUESS WHAT YOUR EX TOOK HIS NEW GF'S VIRGINITY AWAY A MONTH AGO BLAH BLAH BLAH" and I just looked at her. Still feeling indifferent, but just a bit annoyed. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Don't misinterpret this suggestion as aggressive. All you're doing is asking them a simple question, "Why?". Just ask. Let them stumble around trying to justify their own need for gossip. Don't respond to their answer with anything more than, "Oh?" Once you do this, you'll find them somehow cured of the urge to be disrespectful with you. It's no effort on your part, and no skin off your back. You're just asking them the most innocent 'why' they've ever heard, and whatever discomfort they might feel about that is completely up to them. In your corner. Link to comment
Struggling23 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I'm talking to my ex's best friend, but she knows the rules, she never ever brings up the ex and neither do I. Link to comment
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