He's moving back to me... and I'm nervous??

[konstantine]

My boyfriend is moving back near me when he graduates in a month. I am beyond ecstatic that I will have him close to me again and we won't have to go so long without seeing each other. However, I have gotten so used to this routine that I am a little nervous about how it is going to be when he's around again. Right now when we visit each other, we spend 24 hours a day with each other because we are trying to get as much time as we can during the visit. But when he is here permanently, we have to get back to real life.

 

Has anyone had some slight apprehension about your SO coming back and the LDR coming to a close? I don't even really know why I'm nervous about it to be honest, I can just feel that I am.

[Sarati]

Wow, how exciting!

 

It's normal that you are nervous. I can relate -- I was away from my family (yes, a bit different than a romantic LDR) for 2.5 years, 3,000 miles away. (I'm the mom, they're the two grown daughters.)

 

I was very nervous, yet ecstatic to move back. I finally did move back on January 7th of this year. While everyone is glad that we're all back in the same city, the going has been slow, and relocation adjustment takes a while for all parties involved (especially for the one relocating). Moving has traditionally been recognized as a major stressor in a person's life.

 

My best advice to you would be to perhaps talk about how you both want to proceed, because it can be really easy to burn out on each other, and you don't want to let that happen. Take it slow, now that you're in the same city, you will be able to see each other regularly, so try not to spend 24/7 together or you will run the risk of burning out.

 

Keep to your regular schedule, BREATHE, relax, rest, exercise, eat healthy, and spend special you & him time together regularly, too. Again, just take your time, get re-acclimated to each other and cut him (and yourself) some major slack because, while this is an exciting time, it's also a stressful time. If you find that you are both a little cranky from time to time, or things might not be going as smoothly as you'd like at first, just hang in there and realize that it's normal -- it's just stress, and it will pass. And, hey, the good weather is on its way, too! Have fun and just chill out and take it nice and slow and easy and get re-adjusted. It will all work out fine.

[Jgregoire108]

Hey, I am glad someone else feels this way too actually, thought I was going thru some crazy ideas.

 

Im about to go see my SO in the next couple of days, as she is graduating Army Basic Training. We have our own place, but after she left, I eventually got used to my own routine, being by myself, and all that.

 

She still has another 8 weeks of AIT training, but I have been getting apprehensive about when she comes back home after that (shes joined the reserves, so she will be back home for good after she is done, excluding other army things)

 

Thing is, I am so at ease being by myself, that I am already starting to worry about it going from being by myself, doing things I want, going places I want to go... to now being a couple again who sees each other every day and having to revolve our schedules as a couple again.

 

I mean, I am excited that the day is ever closer, but in a way dreading it, though I am trying to remind myself how it was before when we first moved in together 2 years ago, and it will be similiar to that.

 

Any articles or advice?

[konstantine]

Thanks for the encouragement Sarati.

 

I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this. It is just going to be such a different dynamic that I am nervous it will be hard to deal with. But I think after a while it will just become natural again.