CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 We were together for so long and we broke up on March 6....I have been feeling more and more happy every day. What is this? Should I be preparing for a long fall back down to hell? I'm scared. Link to comment
iknowhowtolove Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 if i may ask. how long were you together? i think you're going have you're ups and downs. try not to be scared and don't think negative. try to be happy and tell yourself that you need to feel like this everyday. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 7 years total. He broke up alot so I will say more on 5 years. Link to comment
iknowhowtolove Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 that's a long time. i was with my ex for 3 years and we too broke up a lot welll actually he broke up with me. did he leave you? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 Yes he just called me and said that he was leaving me, came home packed his clothes and he hasn't talked to me ever since. It hurt me so bad I wanted to die, he left me broke and I'm still broke but I started to say if someone really loves me they wouldn't leave me like this, he won't even talk to me. It hurts me so bad. Link to comment
rocio Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Not necessarily. Is it an artificial high or is it based on something in particular? Have you been gradually filling the void with positive things? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 Well I'm just thinking about all the crappy things he did to me and it makes me happy I don't have to be with him anymore. I am enrolling in school for the July, thats about it...looking for a job. Link to comment
iknowhowtolove Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 same thing with me. he broke up with me on the phone. i guess it must hurt more since you lived together. some people can just be total jerks. did he tell you why he was leaving? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 We had a huge argument the night before, I feel like that part was my fault, I told him that I was worried about him driving around on a suspended license no insurance, no registration, he acted like I was crazy and basically told me it was non of my business. I drank too much and then we had a huge argument. The next day I tried to apologize for yelling but he didn't care, he took all his money and left making me feel so guilty. But oh well what can I say? Link to comment
DN Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 You are making good progress. There may be a little relapse sometimes but not for long and eventually there won't be any. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 Thank you for responding What type of relapses should I expect? Link to comment
vmrhine18 Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Thank you for responding What type of relapses should I expect? There will be days when you just miss him like crazy, other days where you will have a very huge urge to contact him, certain things will remind you of him and make you sad. I'm going through a similar situation and I find those problems to be my typical relapses. They are nothing you can't handle though! Be strong and you will continue to be fine! Link to comment
Foreverxo Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Congradulations on your happiness! If you haven't heard from your ex I am sure the next time you do, or the next time you learn something new on him, you will get down for a short time but it will pass. I am very happy finally but I get down for a little bit if I hear some news on him, no matter how small. But then I snap out of it! Link to comment
hers Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Coco, it's called healing! If you do relapse, it may likely not be very hard on you or long lived. And be grateful for this!! This is what you wanted! We told you time makes it better. Believe us now? Link to comment
ScorpiGal83 Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 My personal experience is: It was kinda hard the first 3 days, then it picked up really rapidly and by Day 18 of NC (which i started 3 or 4 days post-breakup), I thought I would be ready to just be friends with him. Day 21 (a Friday) came and I felt completely the opposite - missed him, missed the relationship, started reminiscing about all the sweet and caring things he did... needless to say my weekend sucked. Now it's Wednesday and I'm starting to feel sane again. So yeah... expect it to fluctuate. But the fact that you are able to feel happy is proof you are getting better, instead of spending the whole time drowning in your sorrow. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 You know what, if I see him or hear about news on him..I'll get depressed again. I don't want to know anything about him. I'm scared of that. Link to comment
hers Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 That's why you stay NC. It really gets easier with time. My ex's girlfriend wrote me an email last week, unrelated to anything about him or them. I wrote her back, answered her question about something, and asked her not to write me again and that I want to know nothing about him. 6 months ago, I wouldn't have been able to say that. I wouldve been digging for info. But now, I just really don't care. It gets so much easier with time. You just have to be patient! Link to comment
alcide Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Lol, you leaving in the old days, what goes around comes around. Right? All infact the least you can do is enjoy while it last ok. Link to comment
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