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last month my ex forwarded back ALL the emails I sent back last Summer and Fall, all of them, and there were alot, most of them asking the whys of the breakup and trying to talk things out. I'm surprised he still even had them since he was with someone else right after me. I didn't respond back, I'm not sure what it meant, but I figured not having a reaction was the best.

 

Today I went on an old yahoo screen name I rarely check anymore (I changed alot of my screen names and emails to forget about him, out of sight out of mind) and it said he was trying to add me, but I declined the add.

 

I know anything he will say will hurt...why do they bother keeping your contact info after they dumped you? I think with my ex he is probably trying to see if I met someone else yet, if I'm still hurt and if I would still take the opportunity to talk to him again just to boost his ego...I don't think he's the type to just be friendly to see how I am or to get back together. I feel like telling him to just leave me alone and not contact me at all anymore, but then that's having a reaction and probably giving him the attention he wants.

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last month my ex forwarded back ALL the emails I sent back last Summer and Fall, all of them, and there were alot, most of them asking the whys of the breakup and trying to talk things out. I'm surprised he still even had them since he was with someone else right after me. I didn't respond back, I'm not sure what it meant, but I figured not having a reaction was the best.

 

Today I went on an old yahoo screen name I rarely check anymore (I changed alot of my screen names and emails to forget about him, out of sight out of mind) and it said he was trying to add me, but I declined the add.

 

I know anything he will say will hurt...why do they bother keeping your contact info after they dumped you? I think with my ex he is probably trying to see if I met someone else yet, if I'm still hurt and if I would still take the opportunity to talk to him again just to boost his ego...I don't think he's the type to just be friendly to see how I am or to get back together. I feel like telling him to just leave me alone and not contact me at all anymore, but then that's having a reaction and probably giving him the attention he wants.

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I wouldn't even contact him to tell him to leave you alone. The silence from your end will drive him more nuts!!!! Course...that might mean he increases the amount of contact...which...if you are over him...should give you silent satisfaction that he's trying so hard!!!

 

I do not understand men at all!!! Make us love them...break our hearts...then do stuff like this?? Be strong...there's gotta be better!! I haven't found him yet...but i still have hope that someday i'll find someone who deserves me...you do the same!!!!

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I wouldn't even contact him to tell him to leave you alone. The silence from your end will drive him more nuts!!!! Course...that might mean he increases the amount of contact...which...if you are over him...should give you silent satisfaction that he's trying so hard!!!

 

I do not understand men at all!!! Make us love them...break our hearts...then do stuff like this?? Be strong...there's gotta be better!! I haven't found him yet...but i still have hope that someday i'll find someone who deserves me...you do the same!!!!

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What a git - forwarding back all your emails sounds like a vindictive, gratuitously unpleasant thing to do, obviously in the hope of provoking some kind of response. I'm glad for you that you didn't give him the satisfaction. I'm glad for you that a guy like this isn't in your life any more.

 

Make sure you keep it that way without giving him any response whatsoever - if he's still tying himself in knots over you, for whatever reason, let that be his problem and not yours.

 

You've got a life to lead, YOUR life, and there's no need to get into contact with someone where you know it's going to hurt.

 

(((HUGS))) and keep it up!

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When I was ignoring my bf because he told me he wanted to "move in" with his ex he got all irate and left me a voicemail: "you dont have to ignore me. You can call me and tell me whats going on."

 

This was one week AFTER i had already sent 3 separate emails telling him how i refuse to have an "open relationship" etc etc etc

 

He was playing it like he never had the opportunity , or didnt even bother to read my 3 emails, so he had "no clue" why i was ignoring him..and of course it was all MY fault and I was to blame because *I* am ignoring him (not *HIM* "moving in" with his ex)

 

Then he left a vm: "see if yo uwould have answered the phone we could have spent the entire day together hanging out ajnd having sex, etc"

 

He is just one manipulative bastard.

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